Too good not to share............
A voyaging ship was wrecked during a storm at sea and only two of the men on it were able to swim to a small, desert like island. The two survivors, not knowing what else to do, agree that they had no other recourse but to pray to God. However, to find out whose prayer was more powerful, they agreed to divide the territory between them and stay on
opposite sides of the island.
The first thing they prayed for was food. The next morning, the first man saw a fruit-bearing tree on his side of the land and he was able to eat it's fruit. The other man's parcel of land remained barren!
After a week, the first man was lonely and he decided to pray for a wife. The next day, there was a woman who swam to his side of the land. On the other side of the island, again there was nothing!
Soon the first man prayed for a house, clothes, more food. The next day, like magic, all of these were given to him. However, the second man still had nothing!
Finally, the first man prayed for a ship, so that he and his wife could leave the island. In the morning, he found a ship docked at his side of the island. The first man boarded the ship with his wife and decided to leave the second man on the island. He considered the other man unworthy to receive God's blessings, since none of his prayers had been answered.
As the ship was about to leave, the first man heard a voice from heaven booming, "Why are you leaving your companion on the island?"
"My blessings are mine alone, since I was the one who prayed for them," the first man answered. "His prayers were all unanswered and so he does not deserve anything."
"You are mistaken!" the voice rebuked him. "He had only one prayer, which I answered. If not for that, you would not have received any of my blessings."
"Tell me, O God," the first man asked the voice, "What did he pray for that I should owe him anything?"
"He prayed that all your prayers be answered."
For all we know, our blessings are not the fruits of our prayers alone, but those of another praying for us.
This is too good not to share...
My prayer for you today is that all your prayers are answered. Be blessed.
"What you do for others is more important than what you do for yourself"
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Winners don't do different things,
but they do things differently...
Friday, February 17, 2012
Opposite proverbs
NEWTON'S THIRD LAW STATES: "EVERY ACTION HAS AN EQUAL AND AN OPPOSITE REACTION".
SO IT WOULD STAND TO REASON THAT EVERY PROVERB HAS AN EQUAL AND OPPOSITE PROVERB.
ALL GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT
BUT
TIME AND TIDE WAIT FOR NONE
THE PEN IS MIGHTIER THAN THE SWORD
BUT
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
WISE MEN THINK ALIKE
BUT
FOOLS SELDOM DIFFER
THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE
BUT
THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A FREE LUNCH
SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE
BUT
TIME WAITS FOR NONE
LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP
BUT
STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS HOT
DO IT WELL, OR NOT AT ALL
BUT
HALF A LOAF IS BETTER THAN NONE
BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER
BUT
OPPOSITES ATTRACT
DON'T CROSS YOUR BRIDGES BEFORE YOU COME TO THEM
BUT
FOREWARNED IS FOREARMED
DOUBT IS THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM
BUT
FAITH WILL MOVE MOUNTAINS
GREAT STARTS MAKE GREAT FINISHES
BUT
IT ISN'T OVER TILL IT'S OVER
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
BUT
ALL WORK AND NO PLAY MAKES JACK A DULL BOY
SILENCE IS GOLDEN
BUT
THE SQUEAKY WHEEL GETS THE GREASE
YOU'RE NEVER TOO OLD TO LEARN
BUT
YOU CAN'T TEACH AN OLD DOG NEW TRICKS
WHAT'S GOOD FOR THE GOOSE IS GOOD FOR THE GANDER
BUT
ONE MAN'S MEAT IS ANOTHER MAN'S POISON
ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER
BUT
OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND
TOO MANY COOKS SPOIL THE BROTH
BUT
MANY HANDS MAKE LIGHT WORK
HOLD FAST TO THE WORDS OF YOUR ANCESTORS
BUT
WISE MEN MAKE PROVERBS AND FOOLS REPEAT THEM
SO IT WOULD STAND TO REASON THAT EVERY PROVERB HAS AN EQUAL AND OPPOSITE PROVERB.
ALL GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT
BUT
TIME AND TIDE WAIT FOR NONE
THE PEN IS MIGHTIER THAN THE SWORD
BUT
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
WISE MEN THINK ALIKE
BUT
FOOLS SELDOM DIFFER
THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE
BUT
THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A FREE LUNCH
SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE
BUT
TIME WAITS FOR NONE
LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP
BUT
STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS HOT
DO IT WELL, OR NOT AT ALL
BUT
HALF A LOAF IS BETTER THAN NONE
BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER
BUT
OPPOSITES ATTRACT
DON'T CROSS YOUR BRIDGES BEFORE YOU COME TO THEM
BUT
FOREWARNED IS FOREARMED
DOUBT IS THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM
BUT
FAITH WILL MOVE MOUNTAINS
GREAT STARTS MAKE GREAT FINISHES
BUT
IT ISN'T OVER TILL IT'S OVER
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
BUT
ALL WORK AND NO PLAY MAKES JACK A DULL BOY
SILENCE IS GOLDEN
BUT
THE SQUEAKY WHEEL GETS THE GREASE
YOU'RE NEVER TOO OLD TO LEARN
BUT
YOU CAN'T TEACH AN OLD DOG NEW TRICKS
WHAT'S GOOD FOR THE GOOSE IS GOOD FOR THE GANDER
BUT
ONE MAN'S MEAT IS ANOTHER MAN'S POISON
ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER
BUT
OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND
TOO MANY COOKS SPOIL THE BROTH
BUT
MANY HANDS MAKE LIGHT WORK
HOLD FAST TO THE WORDS OF YOUR ANCESTORS
BUT
WISE MEN MAKE PROVERBS AND FOOLS REPEAT THEM
Sorry, it's over
When you’ve got to walk out, you’ve got to walk out. But while doing it, don’t be an emotional infant
Of the 50 ways to leave your lover, SMSing, ‘Make a new plan,’ is not the most sensitive. You would think singer/model John Mayer would show more sensitivity than dump Jennifer Aniston with a text message saying, “That’s it – the end.” But apparently, that’s what he did. However, you have to admit that’s better than announcing your decision to move on on national TV, like Matt Damon. Rumour has it that he told then girlfriend Minnie Driver that it was over by announcing it on Oprah Winfrey’s show. More recently, Olympic swimmer and model Amanda Beard publicly expressed her opinion about super-athlete Michael Phelps by saying, “Come on, I have really good taste.” Breaking up (or declining a prospect gracefully, as with Beard) is never easy, but with careful planning and a bit of sensitivity, you can lessen the trauma of heartbreak.
PREPARE THE GROUND
If the case is such that one person has moved on in the relationship and the other is still emotionally attached, start by preparing the ground. Give the person a heads-up by saying you want to discuss something serious and invite them to a dinner. The plan should be immediate, to erode any possibility of suspense on the part of the partner. Make sure the venue is some place you can spend time at. You can’t expect to talk about what is wrong with the relationship that you are ending by the time a burger and coffee arrive at a fast-food joint.
TAKE A FRIEND
Get an objective third party involved. Take the permission of your partner to bring along a neutral friend or family member. If he or she objects, you can also suggest they invite a friend or relative from their side so that they don’t feel cornered. The presence of such a person will keep the discussion on track and stop it from escalating into a blame-game or reaching an emotional crescendo. And if emotions do run high, it is the duty of the third party to ask the partner, who is breaking up, to leave the venue and sit with the other one. They should listen to them vent their anger and re-emphasise that the problem does not lie with them personally.
DON’T DISCUSS MUCH
In a scenario where both people realise that the relationship is heading nowhere, a break-up will come as a relief. But in a case that is otherwise, it is the duty of the one moving on to accept blame. Keep talking about how the relationship has no future or how it has lost its charm without blaming the person or accusing him/her.
KEEP REPEATING IT
The other person is likely to talk about how ‘we had a good time the other day’ etc. Agree with her/him, but talk about how the good times are few and farther away in frequency. Keep the focus on ‘now’ and ‘I’. How ‘you’ feel differently ‘now’ or how ‘your’ needs have changed.
Any other discussion will lead to counter accusations and escalate into anger. In case it does, having a neutral party helps as they will bring the conversation back on track. It is important that you don’t dent the self-esteem of the other person by picking personality flaws. In the same vein, don’t blame parents or interfering friends.
And above all, don’t get angry. It is expected that the person still emotionally involved will be hurt and resort to anger and emotional blackmail. But the other should stand firm in the decision. Don’t waver and go back again and again as this will unnecessarily prolong the end and make the other person feel like he/she is being used. Every time your partner wants to talk about why you’re breaking up, repeat your stand even at the risk of being crude. Hopefully by the next morning, your partner will begin to see the light.
BREAK IT GENTLY
If the girlfriend/boyfriend is excessively emotionally dependent on you, you can cut off ties gradually. While informing them that the relationship is over, reinforce that you will always be friends and that you can be depended upon in the time of need.
In extreme cases, you may need to put space in between you. Saying that you need your space before announcing the break-up will also help prepare ground. But remember to actually reduce your interactions if you want to send out the right signals.
After the break up, call up once in a while to check how they are doing. But make the agreement contractual. In case you can’t speak when they call, promise to call back at a more convenient hour and keep your word. Make the calls less frequent as time goes by. Avoiding calls or making excuses will again open the door for accusations and fights.
WHEN SMS-ING IS NECESSARY
Niraja Kapoor (name changed) had to end a relationship by SMS when all other lines of communication broke down. Her ex avoided her calls and postponed all plans of conversation, she finally sent him an SMS saying it was over.
EXPERTSPEAK
• Sometimes, a person has moved on but is afraid of telling the partner and taking responsibility for his/her actions or of the emotional consequences.The person may then act in an offensive manner to drive the partner to take the final step and absolve him/herself of blame.
• Sometimes it is necessary to end a relationship abruptly and impersonally. Especially if the other person is clingy and talking has not lead to anything but emotional outbursts.
TNN
Of the 50 ways to leave your lover, SMSing, ‘Make a new plan,’ is not the most sensitive. You would think singer/model John Mayer would show more sensitivity than dump Jennifer Aniston with a text message saying, “That’s it – the end.” But apparently, that’s what he did. However, you have to admit that’s better than announcing your decision to move on on national TV, like Matt Damon. Rumour has it that he told then girlfriend Minnie Driver that it was over by announcing it on Oprah Winfrey’s show. More recently, Olympic swimmer and model Amanda Beard publicly expressed her opinion about super-athlete Michael Phelps by saying, “Come on, I have really good taste.” Breaking up (or declining a prospect gracefully, as with Beard) is never easy, but with careful planning and a bit of sensitivity, you can lessen the trauma of heartbreak.
PREPARE THE GROUND
If the case is such that one person has moved on in the relationship and the other is still emotionally attached, start by preparing the ground. Give the person a heads-up by saying you want to discuss something serious and invite them to a dinner. The plan should be immediate, to erode any possibility of suspense on the part of the partner. Make sure the venue is some place you can spend time at. You can’t expect to talk about what is wrong with the relationship that you are ending by the time a burger and coffee arrive at a fast-food joint.
TAKE A FRIEND
Get an objective third party involved. Take the permission of your partner to bring along a neutral friend or family member. If he or she objects, you can also suggest they invite a friend or relative from their side so that they don’t feel cornered. The presence of such a person will keep the discussion on track and stop it from escalating into a blame-game or reaching an emotional crescendo. And if emotions do run high, it is the duty of the third party to ask the partner, who is breaking up, to leave the venue and sit with the other one. They should listen to them vent their anger and re-emphasise that the problem does not lie with them personally.
DON’T DISCUSS MUCH
In a scenario where both people realise that the relationship is heading nowhere, a break-up will come as a relief. But in a case that is otherwise, it is the duty of the one moving on to accept blame. Keep talking about how the relationship has no future or how it has lost its charm without blaming the person or accusing him/her.
KEEP REPEATING IT
The other person is likely to talk about how ‘we had a good time the other day’ etc. Agree with her/him, but talk about how the good times are few and farther away in frequency. Keep the focus on ‘now’ and ‘I’. How ‘you’ feel differently ‘now’ or how ‘your’ needs have changed.
Any other discussion will lead to counter accusations and escalate into anger. In case it does, having a neutral party helps as they will bring the conversation back on track. It is important that you don’t dent the self-esteem of the other person by picking personality flaws. In the same vein, don’t blame parents or interfering friends.
And above all, don’t get angry. It is expected that the person still emotionally involved will be hurt and resort to anger and emotional blackmail. But the other should stand firm in the decision. Don’t waver and go back again and again as this will unnecessarily prolong the end and make the other person feel like he/she is being used. Every time your partner wants to talk about why you’re breaking up, repeat your stand even at the risk of being crude. Hopefully by the next morning, your partner will begin to see the light.
BREAK IT GENTLY
If the girlfriend/boyfriend is excessively emotionally dependent on you, you can cut off ties gradually. While informing them that the relationship is over, reinforce that you will always be friends and that you can be depended upon in the time of need.
In extreme cases, you may need to put space in between you. Saying that you need your space before announcing the break-up will also help prepare ground. But remember to actually reduce your interactions if you want to send out the right signals.
After the break up, call up once in a while to check how they are doing. But make the agreement contractual. In case you can’t speak when they call, promise to call back at a more convenient hour and keep your word. Make the calls less frequent as time goes by. Avoiding calls or making excuses will again open the door for accusations and fights.
WHEN SMS-ING IS NECESSARY
Niraja Kapoor (name changed) had to end a relationship by SMS when all other lines of communication broke down. Her ex avoided her calls and postponed all plans of conversation, she finally sent him an SMS saying it was over.
EXPERTSPEAK
• Sometimes, a person has moved on but is afraid of telling the partner and taking responsibility for his/her actions or of the emotional consequences.The person may then act in an offensive manner to drive the partner to take the final step and absolve him/herself of blame.
• Sometimes it is necessary to end a relationship abruptly and impersonally. Especially if the other person is clingy and talking has not lead to anything but emotional outbursts.
TNN
VOTED BEST JOKE IN ****IRELAND****
VOTED BEST JOKE IN ****IRELAND****
John O'Reilly hoisted his beer and said, "Here's to spending the rest of me Life, between the legs of me wife !"
That won him the top prize at the pub for the best toast of the night !
He went home and told his wife, Mary, "I won the prize for the Best toast of The night."
She said, "Aye, did ye now. And what was your toast?"
John said, "Here's to spending the rest of me life, sitting in church beside me wife."
"Oh, that is very nice indeed, John!" Mary said.
The next day, Mary ran into one of John's drinking buddies on the street Corner. The man chuckled leeringly and said, "John won the prize the other night at The pub with a toast about you, Mary."
She said, "Aye, he told me, and I was a bit surprised myself. You know, he's only been in there twice in the last four years. "Once I had to pull him by the ears to make him come, and the other time he fell asleep".
*****
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Love is always bestowed as a gift -- freely, willingly, and without expectation.... We don't love to be loved; we love to love.
John O'Reilly hoisted his beer and said, "Here's to spending the rest of me Life, between the legs of me wife !"
That won him the top prize at the pub for the best toast of the night !
He went home and told his wife, Mary, "I won the prize for the Best toast of The night."
She said, "Aye, did ye now. And what was your toast?"
John said, "Here's to spending the rest of me life, sitting in church beside me wife."
"Oh, that is very nice indeed, John!" Mary said.
The next day, Mary ran into one of John's drinking buddies on the street Corner. The man chuckled leeringly and said, "John won the prize the other night at The pub with a toast about you, Mary."
She said, "Aye, he told me, and I was a bit surprised myself. You know, he's only been in there twice in the last four years. "Once I had to pull him by the ears to make him come, and the other time he fell asleep".
*****
--
Love is always bestowed as a gift -- freely, willingly, and without expectation.... We don't love to be loved; we love to love.
What Makes Love Last?
What Makes Love Last?
Couples at various stages of loving — from young lovers to mid-age partners, to those basking in the emotion in twilight years, give tips on how to keep the love going
IS there a recipe for love that lasts forever? After the heady rush of first love settles down, what keeps a relationship going? It can be many things, from a deep friendship to giving a partner space to pursue her dreams.
Designer Ravi Bajaj, 46, married his longtime love of 18 years, Binti Malhotra, 36, recently in a civil ceremony at Las Vegas. He says, “It was a spontaneous decision. We are soul mates. I met her when she was 18 and she is now 36; she has literally grown up with me. We work together and have been spending eight hours a day together, six days a week. Love is not really definable. It can mean trust, a comfort level, enjoying each other’s company, the ability to read each other’s minds and being sensitive. We’re both hugely practical and don’t look at each other with rose-tinted glasses. I don’t need to change myself to fit into her world… there’s zero effort and I love that.”
He adds, “There are no rules that I follow, but what I love about myself is the ability to be myself in every situation and with everybody. I am me — good, bad, ugly — there is no pretence.”
THE MIDDLE YEARS: Soulmates Ravi Bajaj and Binti Malhotra married spontaneously in Las Vegas after 18 years of courtship. Years of togetherness have ensured that there is no room for pretence when the couple is together
Love can also give you wings, as you fuel each other’s dreams. This is what works for television’s young ‘it’ couple, Mahi Vij and Jay Bhanushali. Says Mahi, “Love means being willing to compromise and through that, your relationship improves too. We enjoy doing things together, whether it is dancing or eating out.” Adds Jay, “What attracted me to Mahi was the fact that she respected elders. She also visited me at home one day and cooked for me. I cherish the fact that we push each other to reach higher in our careers.”
YOUNG LOVE: Mahi Vij and Jay Bhanushali are looking forward to a lifetime of togetherness as they build a foundation for love and their nascent careers
Psychiatrist Rajan Bhonsle believes love evolves at different stages of the relationship, from being hormone-driven when you’re young to a harmonious companionship in later years if you’ve successfully tided over the rough spots. He explains, “There is a lot of physical attraction
a n d high romance when young. As you mature, you realise there is life beyond love. As you turn practical, you try to convert the other to your liking. If you survive the fights in your mid-life, which is when most divorces happen, you can look forward to a life of mutual respect and harmony.”
Helen Fisher of Rutgers University in New Jersey divides love into three stages. The first is lust, driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. The second stage the love-struck phase and the third is of attachment, which requires a lasting commitment and tells if a relationship is going to last.
Model and grooming expert N aya n i k a Chatterjee has been married several years and says the meaning of love changes at different stages. “At the start of a relationship, it is based on attraction, and later rests on compatibility. Love has no formula, but just like you have to maintain a home, you have to maintain a relationship, or it can disintegrate. You have to constantly work towards it. Realising a problem is a step towards solving it. And remember, the blame game is worst. Also, choose your battles and let go of those that are not so important.” Nayanika, who lives with her in-laws, has this advice to offer. “The relationship needs maturity on both sides to work. Respect the relationship for what it is and don’t try to see more into it.
Expectation is the root of all problems.” If you’re looking for love, work on making yourself a happier person and living a full life. When the right person comes along, you’ll instinctively recognise the signs, as a c t r e s s C e l i n a Ja i t l ey ex p e r i - enced with fiancé Peter Haag. Says Celina, “Even before Peter and I met, our mutual friends knew we were soulmates. As the great poet Rumi said, ‘Lovers don't finally meet somewhere, they are in each other all along’. We just knew.” On finding and keeping love, she advises, “Self-love is not only necessary; it is a very important prerequisite for loving others.” Do past relationships teach you how to love better? Says Celina, “The best thing is to release the emotional blocks which keep us from allowing love.”
JUST ENGAGED: When Celina Jaitley met Peter Haag she knew he was ‘the one’. Past relationships have taught Celina to release emotional blocks and allow love to enter her life
Thespian Dilip Kumar and Saira Banu have been married over 40 years. Despite the age gap of 20 years between them, the marriage has stood the test of time. Says Saira, “I don’t think love can be defined. I would say love means giving attention and care to your partner if he is worthy of it. I have been blessed with the man I dreamed of marrying from the age of 12 and we have both given a lot to the relationship to grow stronger and happier with each passing year. I have cherished every moment I have spent in his company be it during our travelling to beautiful places in India and abroad or at home with our family members.”
THE TWILIGHT YEARS: Saira Banu can’t do without Dilip Kumar, her husband of over 40 years. Saira says their relationship has grown from strength to strength. Today, she can’t live without him and wants him before her eyes always
She adds, “To me, he is not just my husband, he is a bundle of the five or six children I wanted God to give me. Today, I cannot be away from him for long. I want him before my eyes always. When we were both working sometimes we would be away from each other at different shooting locations doing our jobs. Then it was romantic, because we would wait to see each other and I would think of all that I would tell him when we would be together and the minute I would see him I would forget it all. Every marriage goes through its ups and downs, so I would tell all young couples to have patience and nourish the relationship with love that gives more than it demands.”
So, work at it and keep the love flowing!
Couples at various stages of loving — from young lovers to mid-age partners, to those basking in the emotion in twilight years, give tips on how to keep the love going
IS there a recipe for love that lasts forever? After the heady rush of first love settles down, what keeps a relationship going? It can be many things, from a deep friendship to giving a partner space to pursue her dreams.
Designer Ravi Bajaj, 46, married his longtime love of 18 years, Binti Malhotra, 36, recently in a civil ceremony at Las Vegas. He says, “It was a spontaneous decision. We are soul mates. I met her when she was 18 and she is now 36; she has literally grown up with me. We work together and have been spending eight hours a day together, six days a week. Love is not really definable. It can mean trust, a comfort level, enjoying each other’s company, the ability to read each other’s minds and being sensitive. We’re both hugely practical and don’t look at each other with rose-tinted glasses. I don’t need to change myself to fit into her world… there’s zero effort and I love that.”
He adds, “There are no rules that I follow, but what I love about myself is the ability to be myself in every situation and with everybody. I am me — good, bad, ugly — there is no pretence.”
THE MIDDLE YEARS: Soulmates Ravi Bajaj and Binti Malhotra married spontaneously in Las Vegas after 18 years of courtship. Years of togetherness have ensured that there is no room for pretence when the couple is together
Love can also give you wings, as you fuel each other’s dreams. This is what works for television’s young ‘it’ couple, Mahi Vij and Jay Bhanushali. Says Mahi, “Love means being willing to compromise and through that, your relationship improves too. We enjoy doing things together, whether it is dancing or eating out.” Adds Jay, “What attracted me to Mahi was the fact that she respected elders. She also visited me at home one day and cooked for me. I cherish the fact that we push each other to reach higher in our careers.”
YOUNG LOVE: Mahi Vij and Jay Bhanushali are looking forward to a lifetime of togetherness as they build a foundation for love and their nascent careers
Psychiatrist Rajan Bhonsle believes love evolves at different stages of the relationship, from being hormone-driven when you’re young to a harmonious companionship in later years if you’ve successfully tided over the rough spots. He explains, “There is a lot of physical attraction
a n d high romance when young. As you mature, you realise there is life beyond love. As you turn practical, you try to convert the other to your liking. If you survive the fights in your mid-life, which is when most divorces happen, you can look forward to a life of mutual respect and harmony.”
Helen Fisher of Rutgers University in New Jersey divides love into three stages. The first is lust, driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. The second stage the love-struck phase and the third is of attachment, which requires a lasting commitment and tells if a relationship is going to last.
Model and grooming expert N aya n i k a Chatterjee has been married several years and says the meaning of love changes at different stages. “At the start of a relationship, it is based on attraction, and later rests on compatibility. Love has no formula, but just like you have to maintain a home, you have to maintain a relationship, or it can disintegrate. You have to constantly work towards it. Realising a problem is a step towards solving it. And remember, the blame game is worst. Also, choose your battles and let go of those that are not so important.” Nayanika, who lives with her in-laws, has this advice to offer. “The relationship needs maturity on both sides to work. Respect the relationship for what it is and don’t try to see more into it.
Expectation is the root of all problems.” If you’re looking for love, work on making yourself a happier person and living a full life. When the right person comes along, you’ll instinctively recognise the signs, as a c t r e s s C e l i n a Ja i t l ey ex p e r i - enced with fiancé Peter Haag. Says Celina, “Even before Peter and I met, our mutual friends knew we were soulmates. As the great poet Rumi said, ‘Lovers don't finally meet somewhere, they are in each other all along’. We just knew.” On finding and keeping love, she advises, “Self-love is not only necessary; it is a very important prerequisite for loving others.” Do past relationships teach you how to love better? Says Celina, “The best thing is to release the emotional blocks which keep us from allowing love.”
JUST ENGAGED: When Celina Jaitley met Peter Haag she knew he was ‘the one’. Past relationships have taught Celina to release emotional blocks and allow love to enter her life
Thespian Dilip Kumar and Saira Banu have been married over 40 years. Despite the age gap of 20 years between them, the marriage has stood the test of time. Says Saira, “I don’t think love can be defined. I would say love means giving attention and care to your partner if he is worthy of it. I have been blessed with the man I dreamed of marrying from the age of 12 and we have both given a lot to the relationship to grow stronger and happier with each passing year. I have cherished every moment I have spent in his company be it during our travelling to beautiful places in India and abroad or at home with our family members.”
THE TWILIGHT YEARS: Saira Banu can’t do without Dilip Kumar, her husband of over 40 years. Saira says their relationship has grown from strength to strength. Today, she can’t live without him and wants him before her eyes always
She adds, “To me, he is not just my husband, he is a bundle of the five or six children I wanted God to give me. Today, I cannot be away from him for long. I want him before my eyes always. When we were both working sometimes we would be away from each other at different shooting locations doing our jobs. Then it was romantic, because we would wait to see each other and I would think of all that I would tell him when we would be together and the minute I would see him I would forget it all. Every marriage goes through its ups and downs, so I would tell all young couples to have patience and nourish the relationship with love that gives more than it demands.”
So, work at it and keep the love flowing!
How To Approach Us Girls- A Woman's Point Of View
How To Approach Us Girls- A Woman's Point Of View
It seems so easy when you see other guys doing it! However, you may find that approaching a girl , telling her that you like her or asking her out, is Mission Impossible for you!
Don’t worry, us girls won’t easily admit it, but the fact is that we feel flattered most of the times we are approached... at least, if you do it right!
However, approaching a girl means you have to face the possibility of being rejected, and no one likes that!
In order to minimize this awful turn of events coming true, next time you go for it, pay attention to certain signals us girls send. You may have probably noticed by now that women who like a guy won’t approach him, but wait for the man to do the first move.
Certainly, you can’t expect a girl to do a direct approach: it’s you who have to take the chance, because we also fear rejection! On the other hand, it’s not that us girls don’t communicate: we may not be using words, but we are constantly sending signals through body language.
For Example:
* Eye contact: Girls may flirt through a short period of eye contact, then glancing away, and then looking back at you to see if you maintained the contact.
* Tossing the hair: A girl who plays with her hair is definitely trying to catch a guy’s attention.
* Touching the edge of our glass: Very common signal in bars and discos!
Helpful Tips
Next time you go to a disco, a bar or a club, a good exercise you can do is just sitting there and watching.
Observe the way girls act around boys they like, as well as how they respond with their body language when a guy they’re not interested comes near.
Look at men too, you may recognize in them certain signals you are sending as well (whether intentionally, or not!). If you have a girl who is a close friend, you may even ask her for help: tell her to point at those girls who are flirting, since us women recognize in others the same body language that we use.
When you finally approach a girl, don’t look desperate: asking for her number immediately is a bad idea.
She may think you do that to every girl around!
First, talk to her, get to know her, take the time to know who she is and what you could have in common. Only then you may ask for her number or ask her on a date.
Us girls like guys who make us laugh, who we can trust, who shows that he cares and who listen to us. Demonstrate you could be one of those guys, and you'll get the girl for sure!
Eye Contact
One of the leading causes of guys getting rejected when they approach the girl is that they don't make eye contact.
* Don't look at the floor!
* Don't mumble!
* Don't stare at her upper body area!
Girls want confident men to approach them. They want someone who doesn't make them nervous and eye contact helps with that.
Girls are very quick to pick up on a man's confidence and would reject him quickly just on this basis alone.
Smiling
Smiling is the simplest way to recognize whether or not the girl has an interest in you! When you smile at her, she would most probably smile back at you if she was ready to be approached.
* Smile but DO NOT STARE!
BUT, if she has a blank expression on her face or maybe just looks away as if trying to ignore you then she is not willing to be approached and you should avoid a possible rejection and move on to someone else.
Positive Body Language
Positive nonverbal communication is very important to be able to approach a girl effectively and receive the appropriateresponse.
When a girl senses that you're nervous with your approach she is more likely to reject you especially if she fidgets and feels tense. She may be uncomfortable and she'll show it.
* Is her body facing you or away from you?
* Is she smiling?
"If you want to make her feel comfortable about YOU approaching HER, then you have to feel comfortable YOURSELF."
A woman will feed off whatever energy you are sending out. When you send out a message that you are nervous and apprehensive about approaching her, then what do you think she is going to end up feeling ?
That same nervous and apprehensive energy that you're feeling, she'll feel!!
You can eliminate this by instead being relaxed and not feeling nervous at all. Just say to yourself, "There's nothing really bad that can happen from approaching this woman".
"Women like to be approached by guys, just as long as you're not doing so with the hopes of dating her."
Does that make any sense?
Even though a part of her will probably guess that this may be the reason why you are approaching her, it shouldn't be so apparent.
She can't think that this is all you want to do.
It has to be a lot more natural to approach a woman and get a conversation started. After some chemistry has been built up, then work your way into getting a date with her. If she is out at a bar or a club, chances are, she is open to being approached by a guy, as long as he doesn't seem like just another guy that wants to hook up.
It seems so easy when you see other guys doing it! However, you may find that approaching a girl , telling her that you like her or asking her out, is Mission Impossible for you!
Don’t worry, us girls won’t easily admit it, but the fact is that we feel flattered most of the times we are approached... at least, if you do it right!
However, approaching a girl means you have to face the possibility of being rejected, and no one likes that!
In order to minimize this awful turn of events coming true, next time you go for it, pay attention to certain signals us girls send. You may have probably noticed by now that women who like a guy won’t approach him, but wait for the man to do the first move.
Certainly, you can’t expect a girl to do a direct approach: it’s you who have to take the chance, because we also fear rejection! On the other hand, it’s not that us girls don’t communicate: we may not be using words, but we are constantly sending signals through body language.
For Example:
* Eye contact: Girls may flirt through a short period of eye contact, then glancing away, and then looking back at you to see if you maintained the contact.
* Tossing the hair: A girl who plays with her hair is definitely trying to catch a guy’s attention.
* Touching the edge of our glass: Very common signal in bars and discos!
Helpful Tips
Next time you go to a disco, a bar or a club, a good exercise you can do is just sitting there and watching.
Observe the way girls act around boys they like, as well as how they respond with their body language when a guy they’re not interested comes near.
Look at men too, you may recognize in them certain signals you are sending as well (whether intentionally, or not!). If you have a girl who is a close friend, you may even ask her for help: tell her to point at those girls who are flirting, since us women recognize in others the same body language that we use.
When you finally approach a girl, don’t look desperate: asking for her number immediately is a bad idea.
She may think you do that to every girl around!
First, talk to her, get to know her, take the time to know who she is and what you could have in common. Only then you may ask for her number or ask her on a date.
Us girls like guys who make us laugh, who we can trust, who shows that he cares and who listen to us. Demonstrate you could be one of those guys, and you'll get the girl for sure!
Eye Contact
One of the leading causes of guys getting rejected when they approach the girl is that they don't make eye contact.
* Don't look at the floor!
* Don't mumble!
* Don't stare at her upper body area!
Girls want confident men to approach them. They want someone who doesn't make them nervous and eye contact helps with that.
Girls are very quick to pick up on a man's confidence and would reject him quickly just on this basis alone.
Smiling
Smiling is the simplest way to recognize whether or not the girl has an interest in you! When you smile at her, she would most probably smile back at you if she was ready to be approached.
* Smile but DO NOT STARE!
BUT, if she has a blank expression on her face or maybe just looks away as if trying to ignore you then she is not willing to be approached and you should avoid a possible rejection and move on to someone else.
Positive Body Language
Positive nonverbal communication is very important to be able to approach a girl effectively and receive the appropriateresponse.
When a girl senses that you're nervous with your approach she is more likely to reject you especially if she fidgets and feels tense. She may be uncomfortable and she'll show it.
* Is her body facing you or away from you?
* Is she smiling?
"If you want to make her feel comfortable about YOU approaching HER, then you have to feel comfortable YOURSELF."
A woman will feed off whatever energy you are sending out. When you send out a message that you are nervous and apprehensive about approaching her, then what do you think she is going to end up feeling ?
That same nervous and apprehensive energy that you're feeling, she'll feel!!
You can eliminate this by instead being relaxed and not feeling nervous at all. Just say to yourself, "There's nothing really bad that can happen from approaching this woman".
"Women like to be approached by guys, just as long as you're not doing so with the hopes of dating her."
Does that make any sense?
Even though a part of her will probably guess that this may be the reason why you are approaching her, it shouldn't be so apparent.
She can't think that this is all you want to do.
It has to be a lot more natural to approach a woman and get a conversation started. After some chemistry has been built up, then work your way into getting a date with her. If she is out at a bar or a club, chances are, she is open to being approached by a guy, as long as he doesn't seem like just another guy that wants to hook up.
Will the world end in 2012?
Will the world end in 2012? Well let’s break down 5 possible reasons why 2012 will not be the end of the World as we know it. Hold on to your seats as you’re taken through a scientific journey into 2012.
Remember the Y2K scare? Everyone and their momma’s were bracing for a worldwide computer crash that could’ve set off nuclear missiles, ending life on earth, but nothing happened. Why? Because of adequate planning and analysis of the situation?
NASA scientists have studied Earth long enough to know this. The world will not end on Dec. 21, 2012 despite what the Mayan calendar shows us.
Here’s 5 reasons why:
1. Just like Y2K, 2012 has been analyzed as well and the science of the end of the Earth has been studied thoroughly. So when asked if the Mayan calendar is true, here’s what scientists at NASA have to say:
“Just as the calendar you have on your kitchen wall does not cease to exist after December 31, the Mayan calendar does not cease to exist on December 21, 2012. This date is the end of the Mayan long-count period but then, just as your calendar begins again on January 1, another long-count period begins for the Mayan calendar.”
2. When asked could some kind of phenomena occur where planets align in a way that could impact Earth, Nasa says no, not in the next few decades anyway.
“There are no planetary alignments in the next few decades, Earth will not cross the galactic plane in 2012, and even if these alignments were to occur, their effects on the Earth would be negligible. Each December the Earth and sun align with the approximate center of the Milky Way Galaxy but that is an annual event of no consequence.”
3. Will Planet X or Eris approach the Earth and threaten our planet with destruction?
“Nibiru and other stories about wayward planets are an Internet hoax. There is no factual basis for these claims. If Nibiru or Planet X were real and headed for an encounter with the Earth in 2012, astronomers would have been tracking it for at least the past decade, and it would be visible by now to the naked eye. Obviously, it does not exist. Eris is real, but it is a dwarf planet similar to Pluto that will remain in the outer solar system; the closest it can come to Earth is about 4 billion miles.”
4. When asked if the Earth is in danger of being hit by a meteor in 2012? It is unlikely.
“The Earth has always been subject to impacts by comets and asteroids, although big hits are very rare. The last big impact was 65 million years ago, and that led to the extinction of the dinosaurs. Today NASA astronomers are carrying out a survey called the Spaceguard Survey to find any large near-Earth asteroids long before they hit. We have already determined that there are no threatening asteroids as large as the one that killed the dinosaurs. All this work is done openly with the discoveries posted every day on the NASA NEO Program Office website, so you can see for yourself that nothing is predicted to hit in 2012.”
5. Is there a danger from giant solar storms predicted for 2012? Uhh uhh.
“Solar activity has a regular cycle, with peaks approximately every 11 years. Near these activity peaks, solar flares can cause some interruption of satellite communications, although engineers are learning how to build electronics that are protected against most solar storms. But there is no special risk associated with 2012. The next solar maximum will occur in the 2012-2014 time frame and is predicted to be an average solar cycle, no different than previous cycles throughout history.
Convinced yet?
NASA says, “Where is the science? Where is the evidence? There is none, and for all the fictional assertions, whether they are made in books, movies, documentaries or over the Internet, we cannot change that simple fact. There is no credible evidence for any of the assertions made in support of unusual events taking place in December 2012.”
There you have it. Five reasons why the world will not end in 2012!
Remember the Y2K scare? Everyone and their momma’s were bracing for a worldwide computer crash that could’ve set off nuclear missiles, ending life on earth, but nothing happened. Why? Because of adequate planning and analysis of the situation?
NASA scientists have studied Earth long enough to know this. The world will not end on Dec. 21, 2012 despite what the Mayan calendar shows us.
Here’s 5 reasons why:
1. Just like Y2K, 2012 has been analyzed as well and the science of the end of the Earth has been studied thoroughly. So when asked if the Mayan calendar is true, here’s what scientists at NASA have to say:
“Just as the calendar you have on your kitchen wall does not cease to exist after December 31, the Mayan calendar does not cease to exist on December 21, 2012. This date is the end of the Mayan long-count period but then, just as your calendar begins again on January 1, another long-count period begins for the Mayan calendar.”
2. When asked could some kind of phenomena occur where planets align in a way that could impact Earth, Nasa says no, not in the next few decades anyway.
“There are no planetary alignments in the next few decades, Earth will not cross the galactic plane in 2012, and even if these alignments were to occur, their effects on the Earth would be negligible. Each December the Earth and sun align with the approximate center of the Milky Way Galaxy but that is an annual event of no consequence.”
3. Will Planet X or Eris approach the Earth and threaten our planet with destruction?
“Nibiru and other stories about wayward planets are an Internet hoax. There is no factual basis for these claims. If Nibiru or Planet X were real and headed for an encounter with the Earth in 2012, astronomers would have been tracking it for at least the past decade, and it would be visible by now to the naked eye. Obviously, it does not exist. Eris is real, but it is a dwarf planet similar to Pluto that will remain in the outer solar system; the closest it can come to Earth is about 4 billion miles.”
4. When asked if the Earth is in danger of being hit by a meteor in 2012? It is unlikely.
“The Earth has always been subject to impacts by comets and asteroids, although big hits are very rare. The last big impact was 65 million years ago, and that led to the extinction of the dinosaurs. Today NASA astronomers are carrying out a survey called the Spaceguard Survey to find any large near-Earth asteroids long before they hit. We have already determined that there are no threatening asteroids as large as the one that killed the dinosaurs. All this work is done openly with the discoveries posted every day on the NASA NEO Program Office website, so you can see for yourself that nothing is predicted to hit in 2012.”
5. Is there a danger from giant solar storms predicted for 2012? Uhh uhh.
“Solar activity has a regular cycle, with peaks approximately every 11 years. Near these activity peaks, solar flares can cause some interruption of satellite communications, although engineers are learning how to build electronics that are protected against most solar storms. But there is no special risk associated with 2012. The next solar maximum will occur in the 2012-2014 time frame and is predicted to be an average solar cycle, no different than previous cycles throughout history.
Convinced yet?
NASA says, “Where is the science? Where is the evidence? There is none, and for all the fictional assertions, whether they are made in books, movies, documentaries or over the Internet, we cannot change that simple fact. There is no credible evidence for any of the assertions made in support of unusual events taking place in December 2012.”
There you have it. Five reasons why the world will not end in 2012!
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