Trust is the permanent certainty and confident expectation from someone for something. Lack of trust might lead to shattered relations so Trust is the most critical ingredient for strong relationship; the relation which can either be between Husband-Wife, Boss-Employee, Father-Son, Brother-Sister, supplier-customer and so on.
Here are some recommended behaviours which you need to demonstrate in order to develop trust:
1- Being Responsible: ensure you are performing your day-to-day responsibilities and meeting the short-term and long term expectations by your dependants.
2- Listen: Listen, Listen, Listen. God has given you two ears and one tongue so you listen more and speak less. Effective Listening is a skill; develop this habit. Google it today and learn.
3- Being Truthful: Be honest and fair. Don’t deceive someone. Remember the fact that building trust is tough but it takes seconds to have scratches-in-the-jewel which usually is very hard to recover.
4- Keeping Promise: your promise is your commitment with someone to do something, so don’t break at any cost. In case you couldn’t meet your promise, there is always a door for dialogue for re-consideration of things. In case of dialogues be fair, be truthful and be open. Confess the short comings on your end.
5- Consistent behaviour: the ever changing attitude is an indication of your non-predictive personality which is an anti-trust drive. So be consistent in what you speak and what you do.
6- Apologizing behaviour: Sorry is the best medicine in healing relationship complications. In fact, Sorry and Thanks are the two golden words which my Kindergarten going son has refreshed for me. Use them often and you will see massive improvements in your daily life.
What are your suggestions to develop Trust?
Sunday, February 19, 2012
Saturday, February 18, 2012
Men have troubles to read woman
RESEARCH has established that women talk 20,000 words per day as against 7,000 by men. But, all that talk doesn't seem to help, as women continue to throw up their hands as the men continue to get it wrong, every time!
A new study says men have trouble reading non-verbal cues. So, women, the
next time you twitch your eyebrow or pull a face and your male friend looks unperturbed, don't fret… Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, remember?
Lack of communication has been termed as the bane of modern life. Understanding non-verbal cues has therefore become more significant. Sociologist Rajib Haldar feels that it is high time men enrolled for classes or read books on the subject. "Knowledge about the significance of non-verbal communication will help men understand and appreciate others' gestures. This can even help them clarify their own personal, professional and social traits, ensuring truly evolved men," explains Haldar.
Men often complain about women saying "yes" when they want to say "no" or vice versa and then blowing their top for not being understood. If they paid a little more attention to a woman's expressions while she speaks, it would be easier to understand the 'yes' in the 'no'.
Body language expert, Rita Gangwani, maintains that understanding nonverbal cues is important for smooth communication.
"Supremacy of non-verbal cues in communication has already been spoken for. Research says seven per cent of the message is verbally communicated, while 93 per cent is nonverbally transmitted. Of the 93 per cent non-verbal communication, 38 per cent happens through vocal tones and 55 per cent through body language, which includes facial expressions, postures and gestures," says Gangwani.
Ability to read non-verbal cues can bring a person closer, make the relationship warmer, affirms Reeta Sonawat, professor and head, Department of Human Development, SNDT Women's University, Mumbai. "Women have a natural advantage. Being a mother, she is more tuned to non-verbal cues since she has to attend to infants. She understands the difference between a cry for hunger and for a nappy change. It has a lot to do with our evolution. Men were supposed to protect and women to feed. Hence, men are more physical in nature and women emotional," says Sonawat.
Eye contact is one of the necessities of non-verbal communication for a woman. She judges the man quite often from the way he looks or doesn't look! And this is often misread by her male counterpart. Her concentrated look or accompanying smile is considered to be an invitation — for friendship, or something more than that.
What men forget is that 'hansi to phansi' is not a universal phenomenon. Many more subtle non-verbal cues than the smile are involved when a woman wants to project her interest. However, most men do not understand this.
Rita Gangwani explains, "Men are not good at picking up subtler nuances. For them, everything has to be literal. Women tend to be better at receiving body language messages, especially when it comes to noticing inconsistencies between body language and verbal language."
The best man in a woman's life; her husband or boyfriend can misread and end up clueless about her outburst. Men primarily do not pay attention to understated expressions. Everything has to be in bold print for them to comprehend.
There is a scientific reason for this superfine distinction. Women process messages using around 16 different parts of their brain at one time, while men process messages using about six or seven different parts of their brain at one time. So, women pick up minute details of everything from a flicker of an eyelid to the pressure of a touch. That also makes them better listeners and observers.
Men think that they are intelligent because women allow them to think so — well, most of the time, anyway! Since men usually miss out on initial non-verbal subtleties, they cannot figure out the later reactions.
The bottomline: Confused men should remember that they missed out on a vital non-verbal cue, which has resulted in the outburst of their woman.
And…it is important that they take a crash course on understanding non-verbal communications.
GENDER SPEAK: MEN
Men interrupt or speak over others to assert themselves and their role.
Men establish less eye contact.
Men use fewer facial expressions to convey emotions.
Men rely on more open body positions (no crossed legs or crossed arms).
Men use more gestures (actions of the body in reacting to something or someone).
Men touch others more, value touch less and are touched less by others.
Men use more non-verbal cues of power or status to indicate a degree of influence or control.
Men are better at map reading.
GENDER SPEAK: WOMEN
Women wait their turn to speak so talk can be shared among equals.
Women ask questions to invite others into the conversation and show interest in others' ideas.
Women establish more eye contact.
Women use more facial expressions, fewer gestures to convey emotions.
Women rely on more closed body positions.
Women touch others less, value touch more and are touched more by others.
Women are more sensitive to expressions. For example, they are quicker to note even the twitch of an eyebrow.
LEARN BETTER NON-VERBAL CUES
Observe the eyes. That shows you're interested.
Look straight into the eyes of your female company. Eye level above her shows a sign of dominance which she may not like.
Keep body postures open. For example, when you are listening to a person, do not cross your arm, because that brings a physical and mental barrier, thereby obstructing free flow of conversation.
When talking, don't try to touch your face or any part of her face because then the message you are trying to convey may not be taken as genuine.
If you're not intimate with her or don't know her too well, please do not touch her, she will misinterpret and withdraw.
Eye contact should be 'consistent' and 'useful' while communicating.
You should note at least three signals of non-verbal cues at a time to read the body language correctly.
A new study says men have trouble reading non-verbal cues. So, women, the
next time you twitch your eyebrow or pull a face and your male friend looks unperturbed, don't fret… Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, remember?
Lack of communication has been termed as the bane of modern life. Understanding non-verbal cues has therefore become more significant. Sociologist Rajib Haldar feels that it is high time men enrolled for classes or read books on the subject. "Knowledge about the significance of non-verbal communication will help men understand and appreciate others' gestures. This can even help them clarify their own personal, professional and social traits, ensuring truly evolved men," explains Haldar.
Men often complain about women saying "yes" when they want to say "no" or vice versa and then blowing their top for not being understood. If they paid a little more attention to a woman's expressions while she speaks, it would be easier to understand the 'yes' in the 'no'.
Body language expert, Rita Gangwani, maintains that understanding nonverbal cues is important for smooth communication.
"Supremacy of non-verbal cues in communication has already been spoken for. Research says seven per cent of the message is verbally communicated, while 93 per cent is nonverbally transmitted. Of the 93 per cent non-verbal communication, 38 per cent happens through vocal tones and 55 per cent through body language, which includes facial expressions, postures and gestures," says Gangwani.
Ability to read non-verbal cues can bring a person closer, make the relationship warmer, affirms Reeta Sonawat, professor and head, Department of Human Development, SNDT Women's University, Mumbai. "Women have a natural advantage. Being a mother, she is more tuned to non-verbal cues since she has to attend to infants. She understands the difference between a cry for hunger and for a nappy change. It has a lot to do with our evolution. Men were supposed to protect and women to feed. Hence, men are more physical in nature and women emotional," says Sonawat.
Eye contact is one of the necessities of non-verbal communication for a woman. She judges the man quite often from the way he looks or doesn't look! And this is often misread by her male counterpart. Her concentrated look or accompanying smile is considered to be an invitation — for friendship, or something more than that.
What men forget is that 'hansi to phansi' is not a universal phenomenon. Many more subtle non-verbal cues than the smile are involved when a woman wants to project her interest. However, most men do not understand this.
Rita Gangwani explains, "Men are not good at picking up subtler nuances. For them, everything has to be literal. Women tend to be better at receiving body language messages, especially when it comes to noticing inconsistencies between body language and verbal language."
The best man in a woman's life; her husband or boyfriend can misread and end up clueless about her outburst. Men primarily do not pay attention to understated expressions. Everything has to be in bold print for them to comprehend.
There is a scientific reason for this superfine distinction. Women process messages using around 16 different parts of their brain at one time, while men process messages using about six or seven different parts of their brain at one time. So, women pick up minute details of everything from a flicker of an eyelid to the pressure of a touch. That also makes them better listeners and observers.
Men think that they are intelligent because women allow them to think so — well, most of the time, anyway! Since men usually miss out on initial non-verbal subtleties, they cannot figure out the later reactions.
The bottomline: Confused men should remember that they missed out on a vital non-verbal cue, which has resulted in the outburst of their woman.
And…it is important that they take a crash course on understanding non-verbal communications.
GENDER SPEAK: MEN
Men interrupt or speak over others to assert themselves and their role.
Men establish less eye contact.
Men use fewer facial expressions to convey emotions.
Men rely on more open body positions (no crossed legs or crossed arms).
Men use more gestures (actions of the body in reacting to something or someone).
Men touch others more, value touch less and are touched less by others.
Men use more non-verbal cues of power or status to indicate a degree of influence or control.
Men are better at map reading.
GENDER SPEAK: WOMEN
Women wait their turn to speak so talk can be shared among equals.
Women ask questions to invite others into the conversation and show interest in others' ideas.
Women establish more eye contact.
Women use more facial expressions, fewer gestures to convey emotions.
Women rely on more closed body positions.
Women touch others less, value touch more and are touched more by others.
Women are more sensitive to expressions. For example, they are quicker to note even the twitch of an eyebrow.
LEARN BETTER NON-VERBAL CUES
Observe the eyes. That shows you're interested.
Look straight into the eyes of your female company. Eye level above her shows a sign of dominance which she may not like.
Keep body postures open. For example, when you are listening to a person, do not cross your arm, because that brings a physical and mental barrier, thereby obstructing free flow of conversation.
When talking, don't try to touch your face or any part of her face because then the message you are trying to convey may not be taken as genuine.
If you're not intimate with her or don't know her too well, please do not touch her, she will misinterpret and withdraw.
Eye contact should be 'consistent' and 'useful' while communicating.
You should note at least three signals of non-verbal cues at a time to read the body language correctly.
Valentine love
So much talk about love these days, and yet it seems in many ways we are as far away from being in love with life and each other as we can be. The idea that love conquers all is not a new one, and yet we seem to feel that this is a new time in history where we are being asked to live and forgive, let go and let flow and lay down the battle sword for a time of peace on Earth.
At what point do we actually take responsibility for our own actions, reactions and attractions that are making up the energy we live in. Who knew that learning to love OURSELVES was the greatest challenge of all. We seem to feel it is easier to turn our focus on others to experience love and yet through those events, we end up being rejected or hurt in so many ways.
What I have learned through my own experience and soul journey is that - you cannot give what you do not have. In other words, until I perfect the ability to love myself unconditionally through all moments and challenges that I create, I cannot and will not be able to love anyone the way they deserve to be loved; UNCONDITIONALLY.
So here we all are seeking something outside of ourselves that we will never find, while we avoid the one source that is the only source we truly have. Our own heart holds the keys and the clues to our happiness. When we follow our own heart - we find the answers and the opportunities to love ourselves no matter what.
We need the most love when we are broken, hurt, feeling rejected or unaccepted. So why is it in these moments, we are less willing to allow love to enter in and heal the wounds? We start looking for someone, or something to treat the wound with that will only give us temporary relief.
Would you reject a child in need? Would you deny a child the right to comfort, shelter, compassion or care? Would you walk away when they are in a place of hurting or suffering? So then ask yourself this important question: Why do I do that to myself? Why do I think that I can only be 'fixed' or 'rescued' by others?
The truth is we are the source of our own supply. We have the power to attract solutions, answers, supplies, provisions, comfort, caring and love that we need exactly as we require it. Learning to take responsibility is part of our soul contract and agreement that is now being completed. It is actually part of our conscious creation development.
At what point do we actually take responsibility for our own actions, reactions and attractions that are making up the energy we live in. Who knew that learning to love OURSELVES was the greatest challenge of all. We seem to feel it is easier to turn our focus on others to experience love and yet through those events, we end up being rejected or hurt in so many ways.
What I have learned through my own experience and soul journey is that - you cannot give what you do not have. In other words, until I perfect the ability to love myself unconditionally through all moments and challenges that I create, I cannot and will not be able to love anyone the way they deserve to be loved; UNCONDITIONALLY.
So here we all are seeking something outside of ourselves that we will never find, while we avoid the one source that is the only source we truly have. Our own heart holds the keys and the clues to our happiness. When we follow our own heart - we find the answers and the opportunities to love ourselves no matter what.
We need the most love when we are broken, hurt, feeling rejected or unaccepted. So why is it in these moments, we are less willing to allow love to enter in and heal the wounds? We start looking for someone, or something to treat the wound with that will only give us temporary relief.
Would you reject a child in need? Would you deny a child the right to comfort, shelter, compassion or care? Would you walk away when they are in a place of hurting or suffering? So then ask yourself this important question: Why do I do that to myself? Why do I think that I can only be 'fixed' or 'rescued' by others?
The truth is we are the source of our own supply. We have the power to attract solutions, answers, supplies, provisions, comfort, caring and love that we need exactly as we require it. Learning to take responsibility is part of our soul contract and agreement that is now being completed. It is actually part of our conscious creation development.
Friday, February 17, 2012
Proactive Approach
In simple words, Proactive Approach is to plan and align things in advance by foreseeing future risks, problems or challenges.
Having said that, there are three kind of people on earth. Category-1 is those who strategize things as they have the visualization to portray the future. So they organize things in advance in order to avoid any possible set back. I call these people as ‘Organizers’. Category-2 is those people who have the reactive methodology to handle things. That means whenever a situation arises they react accordingly. I call these people as ‘Reactors’. Although there can be good Reactors but the majority of them are bad Reactors since most of the situations do not give them the luxury of taking a U-Turn for going back to neutral to start again. Category-3 is Commoners. These people do not have control on their lives. They are the product of their circumstances. They automatically flow with the wind; no matter where the wind takes them to. Of course, the first category is the best one as they have a proactive approach to life. So coming back to the track to understand the concept of pro-activeness in more details. Here are some points:
1. Proactiveness is the vision and ability to align the tasks well in advance to avoid mishaps.
2. Proactiveness is to foresee the possible problems and work on the contingencies in parallel with the master plan. It is strongly recommended to execute your contingencies before they execute themselves at the required time, because you never know whether your contingency plan is going to be successful or not. Hence be sure about it by testing the contingency in advance specially when the risk factor is high.
3. Proactive people have the analytical skills to understand any situation in detail so that they can see low level risks and plan accordingly. (You may want to review my article on analytical skills here.
Considering a Tree analogy, I would refer ‘The Organizers’ as ‘The Roots’, ‘The Reactors’ as ‘The Branches’ and ‘The Commoners’ as ‘The leaves’. Always remember the fact that when the wind blows, its leaves which are impacted at first place. So its Leaf’s responsibility to stick to the Tree if they need to live. For Tree, it does not matter if any of the leaf is broken due to strong wind (circumstances). Which category you belong to? Please share your thoughts.
Article Reference: 0013-mjunaidtahir-paradigmwisdom-14Feb12-Use Proactive approach to secure your future
Having said that, there are three kind of people on earth. Category-1 is those who strategize things as they have the visualization to portray the future. So they organize things in advance in order to avoid any possible set back. I call these people as ‘Organizers’. Category-2 is those people who have the reactive methodology to handle things. That means whenever a situation arises they react accordingly. I call these people as ‘Reactors’. Although there can be good Reactors but the majority of them are bad Reactors since most of the situations do not give them the luxury of taking a U-Turn for going back to neutral to start again. Category-3 is Commoners. These people do not have control on their lives. They are the product of their circumstances. They automatically flow with the wind; no matter where the wind takes them to. Of course, the first category is the best one as they have a proactive approach to life. So coming back to the track to understand the concept of pro-activeness in more details. Here are some points:
1. Proactiveness is the vision and ability to align the tasks well in advance to avoid mishaps.
2. Proactiveness is to foresee the possible problems and work on the contingencies in parallel with the master plan. It is strongly recommended to execute your contingencies before they execute themselves at the required time, because you never know whether your contingency plan is going to be successful or not. Hence be sure about it by testing the contingency in advance specially when the risk factor is high.
3. Proactive people have the analytical skills to understand any situation in detail so that they can see low level risks and plan accordingly. (You may want to review my article on analytical skills here.
Considering a Tree analogy, I would refer ‘The Organizers’ as ‘The Roots’, ‘The Reactors’ as ‘The Branches’ and ‘The Commoners’ as ‘The leaves’. Always remember the fact that when the wind blows, its leaves which are impacted at first place. So its Leaf’s responsibility to stick to the Tree if they need to live. For Tree, it does not matter if any of the leaf is broken due to strong wind (circumstances). Which category you belong to? Please share your thoughts.
Article Reference: 0013-mjunaidtahir-paradigmwisdom-14Feb12-Use Proactive approach to secure your future
30 Habits that Will Change your Life
30 Habits that Will Change your Life
Developing good habits is the basic of personal development and growth. Everything we do is the result of a habit that was previously taught to us. Unfortunately, not all the habits that we have are good, that’s why we are constantly trying to improve.
The following is a list of 30 practical habits that can make a huge difference in your life.
You should treat this list as a reference, and implement just one habit per month. This way you will have the time to fully absorb each of them, while still seeing significant improvements each month.
Health habits
Exercise 30 minutes every day. Especially if you don’t do much movement while working, it’s essential that you get some daily exercise. 30 minutes every day are the minimum recommended for optimal health.
Eat breakfast every day. Breakfast is the more important meal of the day, yet so many people skip it. Personally, I like to eat a couple of toasts in the morning along with a fruit beverage.
Sleep 8 hours. Sleep deprivation is never a good idea. You may think that you are gaining time by sleeping less, when in reality you are only gaining stress and tiredness. 8 hours are a good number of hours for most people, along with an optional 20 minutes nap after lunch.
Avoid snacking between meals. Snacking between meals is the best way to gain weight. If you are hungry, eat something concrete. Otherwise don’t. Update: for clarification, I mean don’t eat junk food between meals, but eating real food it’s ok.
Eat five portions of fruits and vegetables every day. Our body and brain loves getting vegetables and fruit, so I highly recommend eating as much of them as possible. Five portions is the dose that’s usually recommended by many health associations.
Eat fish. Fish is rich of omega 3 and other healthy elements. At least one meal per week of fish should be enough for getting all these nutrients.
Drink one glass of water when you wake up. When you wake up, your body is dehydrated and needs liquid. Make the habit of drinking one glass of water after you wake up in the morning. Also, drink more during the day.
Avoid soda. Soda is often one of the most unhealthy beverage you can find. Limit your consumption of soda as much as possible and you’re body will be grateful for that.
Keep your body clean. I don’t advise spending your day in front of the mirror, but a minimum of personal care does never hurt.
If you smoke, stop it. There’s no reason to smoke anymore, and quitting is possible.
If you drink, stop it. Same as above. Don’t think that alcohol will solve your problems. It never does. The only exception is one glass of wine per day during meals.
Take the stairs. This is just a hack that forces you to do a minimum of exercise. Instead of taking the elevator, take the stairs.
Productivity habits
Use an inbox system. Make the habit of keeping track of all the ideas and things that comes to mind. You can use a notebook to do this, and then sync everything on your computer.
Prioritize. If you have a list of things to do, where do you start? One way is to prioritize your list. If you are in doubt, ask yourself: “If I could only accomplish one thing today, what would it be?”
Plan, but not too much. Planning is important, and you should decide in advance what you are going to do today or this week. However, planning for more than a few weeks is usually inefficient, so I would not worry too much about that.
Wake up early. Waking up early in the morning is a great way to gain extra time. I personally like to wake up at 5 am, so that by 9 am I have already accomplished what otherwise would have taken me many days..
Check your email only twice per day. Email can easily become an addiction, but it’s usually unnecessary to check it every 10 minutes. Make an effort and check your email only once or twice per day, see if the world will still rotate as before after you try this.
Eliminate unimportant tasks. Being busy all day does not mean you are doing important stuff. Eliminate every activity that’s not important, and focus on what really matters.
Clean off your desk and room. Having a clear room and desk is important to maintain focus and creativity.
Automate. There are a lot of tasks that you need to perform every day or every week. Try to automate them as much as possible.
Set strict deadlines. When you do something, decide in advance when you’re going to stop. There’s a rule that states that you will fulfill all the time you have available for completing a task, so make an habit of setting strict deadlines for maximizing your productivity.
Take one day off per week. Instead of working every day, take one day off per week (for example sunday) where you are not going to turn on your computer. Use that time for doing recreational activities like going for a walk.
Personal Development habits
Read 1 book per week. Reading is a good way to keep your brain active. With just 30 minutes per day you should be able to read one book per week, or more than 50 books per year.
Solve puzzles. Quizzes, word games, etc. are all good ways to exercise your brain.
Think positively. You are what you think, all the time.
Make fast decisions. Instead of thinking for one hour wherever you are going to do something, make your decisions as fast as possible (usually less than 1 minute).
Wait before buying. Waiting 48 hours before buying anything is a tremendous money saver, try it.
Meditate 30 minutes per day. A great way to gain clearness and peace is through meditation. 30 minutes are not a lot, but enough to get you started with meditation.
Career habits
Start a blog. Blogging is one of the best way to put your word out. It doesn’t have to be around a specific topic, even a personal blog will do.
Build a portfolio. If your job is creating stuff, building a portfolio is a great way to show what you are capable of. You can also contribute stuff for free if that applies to your work.
What do you think? What are the habits that changed your life?
Developing good habits is the basic of personal development and growth. Everything we do is the result of a habit that was previously taught to us. Unfortunately, not all the habits that we have are good, that’s why we are constantly trying to improve.
The following is a list of 30 practical habits that can make a huge difference in your life.
You should treat this list as a reference, and implement just one habit per month. This way you will have the time to fully absorb each of them, while still seeing significant improvements each month.
Health habits
Exercise 30 minutes every day. Especially if you don’t do much movement while working, it’s essential that you get some daily exercise. 30 minutes every day are the minimum recommended for optimal health.
Eat breakfast every day. Breakfast is the more important meal of the day, yet so many people skip it. Personally, I like to eat a couple of toasts in the morning along with a fruit beverage.
Sleep 8 hours. Sleep deprivation is never a good idea. You may think that you are gaining time by sleeping less, when in reality you are only gaining stress and tiredness. 8 hours are a good number of hours for most people, along with an optional 20 minutes nap after lunch.
Avoid snacking between meals. Snacking between meals is the best way to gain weight. If you are hungry, eat something concrete. Otherwise don’t. Update: for clarification, I mean don’t eat junk food between meals, but eating real food it’s ok.
Eat five portions of fruits and vegetables every day. Our body and brain loves getting vegetables and fruit, so I highly recommend eating as much of them as possible. Five portions is the dose that’s usually recommended by many health associations.
Eat fish. Fish is rich of omega 3 and other healthy elements. At least one meal per week of fish should be enough for getting all these nutrients.
Drink one glass of water when you wake up. When you wake up, your body is dehydrated and needs liquid. Make the habit of drinking one glass of water after you wake up in the morning. Also, drink more during the day.
Avoid soda. Soda is often one of the most unhealthy beverage you can find. Limit your consumption of soda as much as possible and you’re body will be grateful for that.
Keep your body clean. I don’t advise spending your day in front of the mirror, but a minimum of personal care does never hurt.
If you smoke, stop it. There’s no reason to smoke anymore, and quitting is possible.
If you drink, stop it. Same as above. Don’t think that alcohol will solve your problems. It never does. The only exception is one glass of wine per day during meals.
Take the stairs. This is just a hack that forces you to do a minimum of exercise. Instead of taking the elevator, take the stairs.
Productivity habits
Use an inbox system. Make the habit of keeping track of all the ideas and things that comes to mind. You can use a notebook to do this, and then sync everything on your computer.
Prioritize. If you have a list of things to do, where do you start? One way is to prioritize your list. If you are in doubt, ask yourself: “If I could only accomplish one thing today, what would it be?”
Plan, but not too much. Planning is important, and you should decide in advance what you are going to do today or this week. However, planning for more than a few weeks is usually inefficient, so I would not worry too much about that.
Wake up early. Waking up early in the morning is a great way to gain extra time. I personally like to wake up at 5 am, so that by 9 am I have already accomplished what otherwise would have taken me many days..
Check your email only twice per day. Email can easily become an addiction, but it’s usually unnecessary to check it every 10 minutes. Make an effort and check your email only once or twice per day, see if the world will still rotate as before after you try this.
Eliminate unimportant tasks. Being busy all day does not mean you are doing important stuff. Eliminate every activity that’s not important, and focus on what really matters.
Clean off your desk and room. Having a clear room and desk is important to maintain focus and creativity.
Automate. There are a lot of tasks that you need to perform every day or every week. Try to automate them as much as possible.
Set strict deadlines. When you do something, decide in advance when you’re going to stop. There’s a rule that states that you will fulfill all the time you have available for completing a task, so make an habit of setting strict deadlines for maximizing your productivity.
Take one day off per week. Instead of working every day, take one day off per week (for example sunday) where you are not going to turn on your computer. Use that time for doing recreational activities like going for a walk.
Personal Development habits
Read 1 book per week. Reading is a good way to keep your brain active. With just 30 minutes per day you should be able to read one book per week, or more than 50 books per year.
Solve puzzles. Quizzes, word games, etc. are all good ways to exercise your brain.
Think positively. You are what you think, all the time.
Make fast decisions. Instead of thinking for one hour wherever you are going to do something, make your decisions as fast as possible (usually less than 1 minute).
Wait before buying. Waiting 48 hours before buying anything is a tremendous money saver, try it.
Meditate 30 minutes per day. A great way to gain clearness and peace is through meditation. 30 minutes are not a lot, but enough to get you started with meditation.
Career habits
Start a blog. Blogging is one of the best way to put your word out. It doesn’t have to be around a specific topic, even a personal blog will do.
Build a portfolio. If your job is creating stuff, building a portfolio is a great way to show what you are capable of. You can also contribute stuff for free if that applies to your work.
What do you think? What are the habits that changed your life?
Too good not to share
Too good not to share............
A voyaging ship was wrecked during a storm at sea and only two of the men on it were able to swim to a small, desert like island. The two survivors, not knowing what else to do, agree that they had no other recourse but to pray to God. However, to find out whose prayer was more powerful, they agreed to divide the territory between them and stay on
opposite sides of the island.
The first thing they prayed for was food. The next morning, the first man saw a fruit-bearing tree on his side of the land and he was able to eat it's fruit. The other man's parcel of land remained barren!
After a week, the first man was lonely and he decided to pray for a wife. The next day, there was a woman who swam to his side of the land. On the other side of the island, again there was nothing!
Soon the first man prayed for a house, clothes, more food. The next day, like magic, all of these were given to him. However, the second man still had nothing!
Finally, the first man prayed for a ship, so that he and his wife could leave the island. In the morning, he found a ship docked at his side of the island. The first man boarded the ship with his wife and decided to leave the second man on the island. He considered the other man unworthy to receive God's blessings, since none of his prayers had been answered.
As the ship was about to leave, the first man heard a voice from heaven booming, "Why are you leaving your companion on the island?"
"My blessings are mine alone, since I was the one who prayed for them," the first man answered. "His prayers were all unanswered and so he does not deserve anything."
"You are mistaken!" the voice rebuked him. "He had only one prayer, which I answered. If not for that, you would not have received any of my blessings."
"Tell me, O God," the first man asked the voice, "What did he pray for that I should owe him anything?"
"He prayed that all your prayers be answered."
For all we know, our blessings are not the fruits of our prayers alone, but those of another praying for us.
This is too good not to share...
My prayer for you today is that all your prayers are answered. Be blessed.
"What you do for others is more important than what you do for yourself"
!
--
Winners don't do different things,
but they do things differently...
A voyaging ship was wrecked during a storm at sea and only two of the men on it were able to swim to a small, desert like island. The two survivors, not knowing what else to do, agree that they had no other recourse but to pray to God. However, to find out whose prayer was more powerful, they agreed to divide the territory between them and stay on
opposite sides of the island.
The first thing they prayed for was food. The next morning, the first man saw a fruit-bearing tree on his side of the land and he was able to eat it's fruit. The other man's parcel of land remained barren!
After a week, the first man was lonely and he decided to pray for a wife. The next day, there was a woman who swam to his side of the land. On the other side of the island, again there was nothing!
Soon the first man prayed for a house, clothes, more food. The next day, like magic, all of these were given to him. However, the second man still had nothing!
Finally, the first man prayed for a ship, so that he and his wife could leave the island. In the morning, he found a ship docked at his side of the island. The first man boarded the ship with his wife and decided to leave the second man on the island. He considered the other man unworthy to receive God's blessings, since none of his prayers had been answered.
As the ship was about to leave, the first man heard a voice from heaven booming, "Why are you leaving your companion on the island?"
"My blessings are mine alone, since I was the one who prayed for them," the first man answered. "His prayers were all unanswered and so he does not deserve anything."
"You are mistaken!" the voice rebuked him. "He had only one prayer, which I answered. If not for that, you would not have received any of my blessings."
"Tell me, O God," the first man asked the voice, "What did he pray for that I should owe him anything?"
"He prayed that all your prayers be answered."
For all we know, our blessings are not the fruits of our prayers alone, but those of another praying for us.
This is too good not to share...
My prayer for you today is that all your prayers are answered. Be blessed.
"What you do for others is more important than what you do for yourself"
!
--
Winners don't do different things,
but they do things differently...
Opposite proverbs
NEWTON'S THIRD LAW STATES: "EVERY ACTION HAS AN EQUAL AND AN OPPOSITE REACTION".
SO IT WOULD STAND TO REASON THAT EVERY PROVERB HAS AN EQUAL AND OPPOSITE PROVERB.
ALL GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT
BUT
TIME AND TIDE WAIT FOR NONE
THE PEN IS MIGHTIER THAN THE SWORD
BUT
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
WISE MEN THINK ALIKE
BUT
FOOLS SELDOM DIFFER
THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE
BUT
THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A FREE LUNCH
SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE
BUT
TIME WAITS FOR NONE
LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP
BUT
STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS HOT
DO IT WELL, OR NOT AT ALL
BUT
HALF A LOAF IS BETTER THAN NONE
BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER
BUT
OPPOSITES ATTRACT
DON'T CROSS YOUR BRIDGES BEFORE YOU COME TO THEM
BUT
FOREWARNED IS FOREARMED
DOUBT IS THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM
BUT
FAITH WILL MOVE MOUNTAINS
GREAT STARTS MAKE GREAT FINISHES
BUT
IT ISN'T OVER TILL IT'S OVER
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
BUT
ALL WORK AND NO PLAY MAKES JACK A DULL BOY
SILENCE IS GOLDEN
BUT
THE SQUEAKY WHEEL GETS THE GREASE
YOU'RE NEVER TOO OLD TO LEARN
BUT
YOU CAN'T TEACH AN OLD DOG NEW TRICKS
WHAT'S GOOD FOR THE GOOSE IS GOOD FOR THE GANDER
BUT
ONE MAN'S MEAT IS ANOTHER MAN'S POISON
ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER
BUT
OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND
TOO MANY COOKS SPOIL THE BROTH
BUT
MANY HANDS MAKE LIGHT WORK
HOLD FAST TO THE WORDS OF YOUR ANCESTORS
BUT
WISE MEN MAKE PROVERBS AND FOOLS REPEAT THEM
SO IT WOULD STAND TO REASON THAT EVERY PROVERB HAS AN EQUAL AND OPPOSITE PROVERB.
ALL GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT
BUT
TIME AND TIDE WAIT FOR NONE
THE PEN IS MIGHTIER THAN THE SWORD
BUT
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
WISE MEN THINK ALIKE
BUT
FOOLS SELDOM DIFFER
THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE
BUT
THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A FREE LUNCH
SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE
BUT
TIME WAITS FOR NONE
LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP
BUT
STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS HOT
DO IT WELL, OR NOT AT ALL
BUT
HALF A LOAF IS BETTER THAN NONE
BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER
BUT
OPPOSITES ATTRACT
DON'T CROSS YOUR BRIDGES BEFORE YOU COME TO THEM
BUT
FOREWARNED IS FOREARMED
DOUBT IS THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM
BUT
FAITH WILL MOVE MOUNTAINS
GREAT STARTS MAKE GREAT FINISHES
BUT
IT ISN'T OVER TILL IT'S OVER
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
BUT
ALL WORK AND NO PLAY MAKES JACK A DULL BOY
SILENCE IS GOLDEN
BUT
THE SQUEAKY WHEEL GETS THE GREASE
YOU'RE NEVER TOO OLD TO LEARN
BUT
YOU CAN'T TEACH AN OLD DOG NEW TRICKS
WHAT'S GOOD FOR THE GOOSE IS GOOD FOR THE GANDER
BUT
ONE MAN'S MEAT IS ANOTHER MAN'S POISON
ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER
BUT
OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND
TOO MANY COOKS SPOIL THE BROTH
BUT
MANY HANDS MAKE LIGHT WORK
HOLD FAST TO THE WORDS OF YOUR ANCESTORS
BUT
WISE MEN MAKE PROVERBS AND FOOLS REPEAT THEM
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