7 Ways To Put A Smile On Somebody Else’s Face
1. Write an encouraging note to others that have encouraged you or that need encouragement. Handwritten notes that are given to encourage, not just for thanking someone for a gift, are rare. That makes handwritten notes even more special. Start a new practice of sitting down and writing an encouraging note on a regular basis. You just might start an epidemic!
2. Take a friend out to lunch or invite her to your home for a meal. You will get to know each other even better than you do right now. If you feel like being more adventurous, throw a party for several of your friends and put smiles on a multitude of faces.
3. Give someone an inspirational book to read. You will feel good doing it, reading the book will change the person, and they will think of you every time they read it.
4. Ask a friend or relative if you can take care of their kid(s) for a day or evening. If you have been a parent, you know the value of being able to have a few hours of `adult time` without worrying about the children. Don't wait to be asked to baby-sit when it is required. Offer to do it at a time when the parent can do something fun and relaxing.
5. Deliver a meal to someone you know that is sick or having a rough time. We have all been sick and know the last thing you want to do is be out of bed. There are also times when life is tough and it is hard to do all of the daily chores. You can be a tremendous help by providing a meal that can be enjoyed.
6. Volunteer time to supporting your local prayer hall or temple. Every minute you dedicate to charity or temple will cause many smiles. You will put a smile on the face of each leader just for helping without being asked. You will also be putting smiles on the faces of those that are being helped through the organization.
7. Thank everyone that supports you throughout the day. The list of those that you come in contact with is endless. Remember family and friends, secretaries, co-workers, teachers, Sunday school teachers, pastors, store employees, janitors, gas station attendants, those that deliver your mail and newspaper, and servers at restaurants
Sunday, February 19, 2012
60 Facts, we should know
[1]
If you are right handed, you will tend to chew your food on the right side of your mouth. If you are left handed, you will tend to chew your food on the left side of your mouth.
[2]
To make half a kilo of honey, bees must collect nectar from over 2 million individual flowers
[3]
Heroin is the brand name of morphine once marketed by 'Bayer'.
[4]
Communications giant Nokia was founded in 1865 as a wood-pulp mill by Fredrik Idestam.
[5]
Tourists visiting Iceland should know that tipping at a restaurant is considered an insult! In America tipping is forced upon customer at 15 to 18%.
[6]
People in nudist colonies play volleyball more than any other sport.
[7]
Albert Einstein was offered the presidency of Israel in 1952, but he declined.
[8]
Astronauts can't belch - there is no gravity to separate liquid from gas in their stomachs.
[9]
Ancient Roman, Chinese and German societies often used urine as mouthwash.
[10]
The average person who stops smoking requires one hour less sleep a night.
[11]
The Mona Lisa has no eyebrows. In the Renaissance era, it was fashion to shave them off!
[12]
Because of the speed at which Earth moves around the Sun, it is impossible for a solar eclipse to last more than 7 minutes and 58 seconds.
[13]
The night of January 20 is "Saint Agnes's Eve", which is regarded as a time when a young woman dreams of her future husband.
[14]
There are over 25 million bubbles waiting to burst out of each bottle of Champagne
[15]
Google is actually the common name for a number with a million zeros
[16]
It takes glass one million years to decompose, which means it never wears out and can be recycled an infinite amount of times!
[17]
The heat of peppers is rated on the Scoville scale
[18]
Gold is the only metal that doesn't rust, even if it's buried in the ground for thousands of years
[19]
Your tongue is the only muscle in your body that is attached at only one end
[20]
If you stop getting thirsty, you need to drink more water. When a human body is dehydrated, its thirst mechanism shuts off.
[21]
Each year 2,000,000 smokers either quit smoking or die of tobacco-related diseases.
[22]
When it originally appeared in 1886 - Coca Cola was billed as an Esteemed Brain Tonic and Intellectual Beverage.
[23]
Zero is the only number that cannot be represented by Roman numerals
[24]
Kites were used in the American Civil War to deliver letters and newspapers.
[25]
The song, Auld Lang Syne, is sung at the stroke of midnight in almost every English-speaking country in the world to bring in the new year.
[25]
For every real Christmas tree harvested, two to three seedlings are planted in its place.
[26]
Drinking water after eating reduces the acid in your mouth by 61 percent
[27]
Peanut oil is used for cooking in submarines because it doesn't smoke unless it's heated above 450°F
[28]
The Shell Oil Company originally began as a novelty shop in London that sold seashells
[29]
The roar that we hear when we place a seashell next to our ear is not the ocean, but rather the sound of blood surging through the veins in the ear.
[30]
Nine out of every 10 living things live in the ocean
[31]
The banana cannot reproduce itself. It can be propagated only by the hand of man
[32]
Airports at higher altitudes require a longer airstrip due to lower air density
[33]
Fish and Chip selling officially remained an offensive trade until 1940 due to the smell it produces
[34]
The University of Alaska spans four time zones
[35]
The tooth is the only part of the human body that cannot heal itself.
[36]
In ancient Greece, tossing an apple to a girl was a traditional proposal of marriage. Catching it meant she accepted.
[37]
Do you know the names of the three wise monkeys? They are: Mizaru (See no evil), Mikazaru (Hear no evil) and Mazaru (Speak no evil).
[38]
Warner Communications paid $28 million for the copyright to the song Happy Birthday.
[39]
Intelligent people have more zinc and copper in their hair.
[40]
A comet's tail always points away from the sun
[41]
The Swine Flu vaccine in 1976 caused more death and illness than the disease it was intended to prevent
[42]
Caffeine increases the power of aspirin and other painkillers, that is why it is found in some medicines.
[43]
The military salute is a motion that evolved from medieval times, when knights in armor raised their visors to reveal their identity.
[44]
If you get into the bottom of a well or a tall chimney and look up, you can see stars, even in the middle of the day.
[45]
When a person dies, hearing is the last sense to go. The first sense lost is sight
[46]
Trivia in Roman mythology was the goddess who haunted crossroads, graveyards and was the goddess of sorcery and witchcraft. She wandered about at night, and was seen only by the barking of dogs who told of her approach.
[47]
In ancient times strangers shook hands to show that they were unarmed
[48]
Strawberries are the only fruits whose seeds grow on the outside
[49]
Avocados have the highest calories of any fruit at 167 calories per hundred grams
[50]
It cost the soft drink industry $100 million a year for thefts committed involving vending machines
[51]
The moon moves about two inches away from the Earth each year
[52]
The Earth gets 100 tons heavier every day due to falling space dust
[53]
Due to earth's gravity it is impossible for mountains to be higher than 15,000 meters
[54]
Men's shirts have the buttons on the right, but women's shirts have the buttons on the left
[55]
Mickey Mouse is known as "Topolino" in Italy.
[56]
Soldiers do not march in step when going across bridges because they could set up a vibration which could be sufficient to knock the bridge down
[57]
The painting that won second place in a competition held by the US National Academy of Design was hanging upside down when it was judged.
[58]
Everything weighs one percent less at the equator.
[59]
For every extra kilogram carried on a space flight, 530 kg of excess fuel are needed at lift-off
[60]
The letter J does not appear anywhere on the periodic table of the elements
If you are right handed, you will tend to chew your food on the right side of your mouth. If you are left handed, you will tend to chew your food on the left side of your mouth.
[2]
To make half a kilo of honey, bees must collect nectar from over 2 million individual flowers
[3]
Heroin is the brand name of morphine once marketed by 'Bayer'.
[4]
Communications giant Nokia was founded in 1865 as a wood-pulp mill by Fredrik Idestam.
[5]
Tourists visiting Iceland should know that tipping at a restaurant is considered an insult! In America tipping is forced upon customer at 15 to 18%.
[6]
People in nudist colonies play volleyball more than any other sport.
[7]
Albert Einstein was offered the presidency of Israel in 1952, but he declined.
[8]
Astronauts can't belch - there is no gravity to separate liquid from gas in their stomachs.
[9]
Ancient Roman, Chinese and German societies often used urine as mouthwash.
[10]
The average person who stops smoking requires one hour less sleep a night.
[11]
The Mona Lisa has no eyebrows. In the Renaissance era, it was fashion to shave them off!
[12]
Because of the speed at which Earth moves around the Sun, it is impossible for a solar eclipse to last more than 7 minutes and 58 seconds.
[13]
The night of January 20 is "Saint Agnes's Eve", which is regarded as a time when a young woman dreams of her future husband.
[14]
There are over 25 million bubbles waiting to burst out of each bottle of Champagne
[15]
Google is actually the common name for a number with a million zeros
[16]
It takes glass one million years to decompose, which means it never wears out and can be recycled an infinite amount of times!
[17]
The heat of peppers is rated on the Scoville scale
[18]
Gold is the only metal that doesn't rust, even if it's buried in the ground for thousands of years
[19]
Your tongue is the only muscle in your body that is attached at only one end
[20]
If you stop getting thirsty, you need to drink more water. When a human body is dehydrated, its thirst mechanism shuts off.
[21]
Each year 2,000,000 smokers either quit smoking or die of tobacco-related diseases.
[22]
When it originally appeared in 1886 - Coca Cola was billed as an Esteemed Brain Tonic and Intellectual Beverage.
[23]
Zero is the only number that cannot be represented by Roman numerals
[24]
Kites were used in the American Civil War to deliver letters and newspapers.
[25]
The song, Auld Lang Syne, is sung at the stroke of midnight in almost every English-speaking country in the world to bring in the new year.
[25]
For every real Christmas tree harvested, two to three seedlings are planted in its place.
[26]
Drinking water after eating reduces the acid in your mouth by 61 percent
[27]
Peanut oil is used for cooking in submarines because it doesn't smoke unless it's heated above 450°F
[28]
The Shell Oil Company originally began as a novelty shop in London that sold seashells
[29]
The roar that we hear when we place a seashell next to our ear is not the ocean, but rather the sound of blood surging through the veins in the ear.
[30]
Nine out of every 10 living things live in the ocean
[31]
The banana cannot reproduce itself. It can be propagated only by the hand of man
[32]
Airports at higher altitudes require a longer airstrip due to lower air density
[33]
Fish and Chip selling officially remained an offensive trade until 1940 due to the smell it produces
[34]
The University of Alaska spans four time zones
[35]
The tooth is the only part of the human body that cannot heal itself.
[36]
In ancient Greece, tossing an apple to a girl was a traditional proposal of marriage. Catching it meant she accepted.
[37]
Do you know the names of the three wise monkeys? They are: Mizaru (See no evil), Mikazaru (Hear no evil) and Mazaru (Speak no evil).
[38]
Warner Communications paid $28 million for the copyright to the song Happy Birthday.
[39]
Intelligent people have more zinc and copper in their hair.
[40]
A comet's tail always points away from the sun
[41]
The Swine Flu vaccine in 1976 caused more death and illness than the disease it was intended to prevent
[42]
Caffeine increases the power of aspirin and other painkillers, that is why it is found in some medicines.
[43]
The military salute is a motion that evolved from medieval times, when knights in armor raised their visors to reveal their identity.
[44]
If you get into the bottom of a well or a tall chimney and look up, you can see stars, even in the middle of the day.
[45]
When a person dies, hearing is the last sense to go. The first sense lost is sight
[46]
Trivia in Roman mythology was the goddess who haunted crossroads, graveyards and was the goddess of sorcery and witchcraft. She wandered about at night, and was seen only by the barking of dogs who told of her approach.
[47]
In ancient times strangers shook hands to show that they were unarmed
[48]
Strawberries are the only fruits whose seeds grow on the outside
[49]
Avocados have the highest calories of any fruit at 167 calories per hundred grams
[50]
It cost the soft drink industry $100 million a year for thefts committed involving vending machines
[51]
The moon moves about two inches away from the Earth each year
[52]
The Earth gets 100 tons heavier every day due to falling space dust
[53]
Due to earth's gravity it is impossible for mountains to be higher than 15,000 meters
[54]
Men's shirts have the buttons on the right, but women's shirts have the buttons on the left
[55]
Mickey Mouse is known as "Topolino" in Italy.
[56]
Soldiers do not march in step when going across bridges because they could set up a vibration which could be sufficient to knock the bridge down
[57]
The painting that won second place in a competition held by the US National Academy of Design was hanging upside down when it was judged.
[58]
Everything weighs one percent less at the equator.
[59]
For every extra kilogram carried on a space flight, 530 kg of excess fuel are needed at lift-off
[60]
The letter J does not appear anywhere on the periodic table of the elements
Build trust
Trust is the permanent certainty and confident expectation from someone for something. Lack of trust might lead to shattered relations so Trust is the most critical ingredient for strong relationship; the relation which can either be between Husband-Wife, Boss-Employee, Father-Son, Brother-Sister, supplier-customer and so on.
Here are some recommended behaviours which you need to demonstrate in order to develop trust:
1- Being Responsible: ensure you are performing your day-to-day responsibilities and meeting the short-term and long term expectations by your dependants.
2- Listen: Listen, Listen, Listen. God has given you two ears and one tongue so you listen more and speak less. Effective Listening is a skill; develop this habit. Google it today and learn.
3- Being Truthful: Be honest and fair. Don’t deceive someone. Remember the fact that building trust is tough but it takes seconds to have scratches-in-the-jewel which usually is very hard to recover.
4- Keeping Promise: your promise is your commitment with someone to do something, so don’t break at any cost. In case you couldn’t meet your promise, there is always a door for dialogue for re-consideration of things. In case of dialogues be fair, be truthful and be open. Confess the short comings on your end.
5- Consistent behaviour: the ever changing attitude is an indication of your non-predictive personality which is an anti-trust drive. So be consistent in what you speak and what you do.
6- Apologizing behaviour: Sorry is the best medicine in healing relationship complications. In fact, Sorry and Thanks are the two golden words which my Kindergarten going son has refreshed for me. Use them often and you will see massive improvements in your daily life.
What are your suggestions to develop Trust?
Here are some recommended behaviours which you need to demonstrate in order to develop trust:
1- Being Responsible: ensure you are performing your day-to-day responsibilities and meeting the short-term and long term expectations by your dependants.
2- Listen: Listen, Listen, Listen. God has given you two ears and one tongue so you listen more and speak less. Effective Listening is a skill; develop this habit. Google it today and learn.
3- Being Truthful: Be honest and fair. Don’t deceive someone. Remember the fact that building trust is tough but it takes seconds to have scratches-in-the-jewel which usually is very hard to recover.
4- Keeping Promise: your promise is your commitment with someone to do something, so don’t break at any cost. In case you couldn’t meet your promise, there is always a door for dialogue for re-consideration of things. In case of dialogues be fair, be truthful and be open. Confess the short comings on your end.
5- Consistent behaviour: the ever changing attitude is an indication of your non-predictive personality which is an anti-trust drive. So be consistent in what you speak and what you do.
6- Apologizing behaviour: Sorry is the best medicine in healing relationship complications. In fact, Sorry and Thanks are the two golden words which my Kindergarten going son has refreshed for me. Use them often and you will see massive improvements in your daily life.
What are your suggestions to develop Trust?
Saturday, February 18, 2012
Men have troubles to read woman
RESEARCH has established that women talk 20,000 words per day as against 7,000 by men. But, all that talk doesn't seem to help, as women continue to throw up their hands as the men continue to get it wrong, every time!
A new study says men have trouble reading non-verbal cues. So, women, the
next time you twitch your eyebrow or pull a face and your male friend looks unperturbed, don't fret… Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, remember?
Lack of communication has been termed as the bane of modern life. Understanding non-verbal cues has therefore become more significant. Sociologist Rajib Haldar feels that it is high time men enrolled for classes or read books on the subject. "Knowledge about the significance of non-verbal communication will help men understand and appreciate others' gestures. This can even help them clarify their own personal, professional and social traits, ensuring truly evolved men," explains Haldar.
Men often complain about women saying "yes" when they want to say "no" or vice versa and then blowing their top for not being understood. If they paid a little more attention to a woman's expressions while she speaks, it would be easier to understand the 'yes' in the 'no'.
Body language expert, Rita Gangwani, maintains that understanding nonverbal cues is important for smooth communication.
"Supremacy of non-verbal cues in communication has already been spoken for. Research says seven per cent of the message is verbally communicated, while 93 per cent is nonverbally transmitted. Of the 93 per cent non-verbal communication, 38 per cent happens through vocal tones and 55 per cent through body language, which includes facial expressions, postures and gestures," says Gangwani.
Ability to read non-verbal cues can bring a person closer, make the relationship warmer, affirms Reeta Sonawat, professor and head, Department of Human Development, SNDT Women's University, Mumbai. "Women have a natural advantage. Being a mother, she is more tuned to non-verbal cues since she has to attend to infants. She understands the difference between a cry for hunger and for a nappy change. It has a lot to do with our evolution. Men were supposed to protect and women to feed. Hence, men are more physical in nature and women emotional," says Sonawat.
Eye contact is one of the necessities of non-verbal communication for a woman. She judges the man quite often from the way he looks or doesn't look! And this is often misread by her male counterpart. Her concentrated look or accompanying smile is considered to be an invitation — for friendship, or something more than that.
What men forget is that 'hansi to phansi' is not a universal phenomenon. Many more subtle non-verbal cues than the smile are involved when a woman wants to project her interest. However, most men do not understand this.
Rita Gangwani explains, "Men are not good at picking up subtler nuances. For them, everything has to be literal. Women tend to be better at receiving body language messages, especially when it comes to noticing inconsistencies between body language and verbal language."
The best man in a woman's life; her husband or boyfriend can misread and end up clueless about her outburst. Men primarily do not pay attention to understated expressions. Everything has to be in bold print for them to comprehend.
There is a scientific reason for this superfine distinction. Women process messages using around 16 different parts of their brain at one time, while men process messages using about six or seven different parts of their brain at one time. So, women pick up minute details of everything from a flicker of an eyelid to the pressure of a touch. That also makes them better listeners and observers.
Men think that they are intelligent because women allow them to think so — well, most of the time, anyway! Since men usually miss out on initial non-verbal subtleties, they cannot figure out the later reactions.
The bottomline: Confused men should remember that they missed out on a vital non-verbal cue, which has resulted in the outburst of their woman.
And…it is important that they take a crash course on understanding non-verbal communications.
GENDER SPEAK: MEN
Men interrupt or speak over others to assert themselves and their role.
Men establish less eye contact.
Men use fewer facial expressions to convey emotions.
Men rely on more open body positions (no crossed legs or crossed arms).
Men use more gestures (actions of the body in reacting to something or someone).
Men touch others more, value touch less and are touched less by others.
Men use more non-verbal cues of power or status to indicate a degree of influence or control.
Men are better at map reading.
GENDER SPEAK: WOMEN
Women wait their turn to speak so talk can be shared among equals.
Women ask questions to invite others into the conversation and show interest in others' ideas.
Women establish more eye contact.
Women use more facial expressions, fewer gestures to convey emotions.
Women rely on more closed body positions.
Women touch others less, value touch more and are touched more by others.
Women are more sensitive to expressions. For example, they are quicker to note even the twitch of an eyebrow.
LEARN BETTER NON-VERBAL CUES
Observe the eyes. That shows you're interested.
Look straight into the eyes of your female company. Eye level above her shows a sign of dominance which she may not like.
Keep body postures open. For example, when you are listening to a person, do not cross your arm, because that brings a physical and mental barrier, thereby obstructing free flow of conversation.
When talking, don't try to touch your face or any part of her face because then the message you are trying to convey may not be taken as genuine.
If you're not intimate with her or don't know her too well, please do not touch her, she will misinterpret and withdraw.
Eye contact should be 'consistent' and 'useful' while communicating.
You should note at least three signals of non-verbal cues at a time to read the body language correctly.
A new study says men have trouble reading non-verbal cues. So, women, the
next time you twitch your eyebrow or pull a face and your male friend looks unperturbed, don't fret… Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, remember?
Lack of communication has been termed as the bane of modern life. Understanding non-verbal cues has therefore become more significant. Sociologist Rajib Haldar feels that it is high time men enrolled for classes or read books on the subject. "Knowledge about the significance of non-verbal communication will help men understand and appreciate others' gestures. This can even help them clarify their own personal, professional and social traits, ensuring truly evolved men," explains Haldar.
Men often complain about women saying "yes" when they want to say "no" or vice versa and then blowing their top for not being understood. If they paid a little more attention to a woman's expressions while she speaks, it would be easier to understand the 'yes' in the 'no'.
Body language expert, Rita Gangwani, maintains that understanding nonverbal cues is important for smooth communication.
"Supremacy of non-verbal cues in communication has already been spoken for. Research says seven per cent of the message is verbally communicated, while 93 per cent is nonverbally transmitted. Of the 93 per cent non-verbal communication, 38 per cent happens through vocal tones and 55 per cent through body language, which includes facial expressions, postures and gestures," says Gangwani.
Ability to read non-verbal cues can bring a person closer, make the relationship warmer, affirms Reeta Sonawat, professor and head, Department of Human Development, SNDT Women's University, Mumbai. "Women have a natural advantage. Being a mother, she is more tuned to non-verbal cues since she has to attend to infants. She understands the difference between a cry for hunger and for a nappy change. It has a lot to do with our evolution. Men were supposed to protect and women to feed. Hence, men are more physical in nature and women emotional," says Sonawat.
Eye contact is one of the necessities of non-verbal communication for a woman. She judges the man quite often from the way he looks or doesn't look! And this is often misread by her male counterpart. Her concentrated look or accompanying smile is considered to be an invitation — for friendship, or something more than that.
What men forget is that 'hansi to phansi' is not a universal phenomenon. Many more subtle non-verbal cues than the smile are involved when a woman wants to project her interest. However, most men do not understand this.
Rita Gangwani explains, "Men are not good at picking up subtler nuances. For them, everything has to be literal. Women tend to be better at receiving body language messages, especially when it comes to noticing inconsistencies between body language and verbal language."
The best man in a woman's life; her husband or boyfriend can misread and end up clueless about her outburst. Men primarily do not pay attention to understated expressions. Everything has to be in bold print for them to comprehend.
There is a scientific reason for this superfine distinction. Women process messages using around 16 different parts of their brain at one time, while men process messages using about six or seven different parts of their brain at one time. So, women pick up minute details of everything from a flicker of an eyelid to the pressure of a touch. That also makes them better listeners and observers.
Men think that they are intelligent because women allow them to think so — well, most of the time, anyway! Since men usually miss out on initial non-verbal subtleties, they cannot figure out the later reactions.
The bottomline: Confused men should remember that they missed out on a vital non-verbal cue, which has resulted in the outburst of their woman.
And…it is important that they take a crash course on understanding non-verbal communications.
GENDER SPEAK: MEN
Men interrupt or speak over others to assert themselves and their role.
Men establish less eye contact.
Men use fewer facial expressions to convey emotions.
Men rely on more open body positions (no crossed legs or crossed arms).
Men use more gestures (actions of the body in reacting to something or someone).
Men touch others more, value touch less and are touched less by others.
Men use more non-verbal cues of power or status to indicate a degree of influence or control.
Men are better at map reading.
GENDER SPEAK: WOMEN
Women wait their turn to speak so talk can be shared among equals.
Women ask questions to invite others into the conversation and show interest in others' ideas.
Women establish more eye contact.
Women use more facial expressions, fewer gestures to convey emotions.
Women rely on more closed body positions.
Women touch others less, value touch more and are touched more by others.
Women are more sensitive to expressions. For example, they are quicker to note even the twitch of an eyebrow.
LEARN BETTER NON-VERBAL CUES
Observe the eyes. That shows you're interested.
Look straight into the eyes of your female company. Eye level above her shows a sign of dominance which she may not like.
Keep body postures open. For example, when you are listening to a person, do not cross your arm, because that brings a physical and mental barrier, thereby obstructing free flow of conversation.
When talking, don't try to touch your face or any part of her face because then the message you are trying to convey may not be taken as genuine.
If you're not intimate with her or don't know her too well, please do not touch her, she will misinterpret and withdraw.
Eye contact should be 'consistent' and 'useful' while communicating.
You should note at least three signals of non-verbal cues at a time to read the body language correctly.
Valentine love
So much talk about love these days, and yet it seems in many ways we are as far away from being in love with life and each other as we can be. The idea that love conquers all is not a new one, and yet we seem to feel that this is a new time in history where we are being asked to live and forgive, let go and let flow and lay down the battle sword for a time of peace on Earth.
At what point do we actually take responsibility for our own actions, reactions and attractions that are making up the energy we live in. Who knew that learning to love OURSELVES was the greatest challenge of all. We seem to feel it is easier to turn our focus on others to experience love and yet through those events, we end up being rejected or hurt in so many ways.
What I have learned through my own experience and soul journey is that - you cannot give what you do not have. In other words, until I perfect the ability to love myself unconditionally through all moments and challenges that I create, I cannot and will not be able to love anyone the way they deserve to be loved; UNCONDITIONALLY.
So here we all are seeking something outside of ourselves that we will never find, while we avoid the one source that is the only source we truly have. Our own heart holds the keys and the clues to our happiness. When we follow our own heart - we find the answers and the opportunities to love ourselves no matter what.
We need the most love when we are broken, hurt, feeling rejected or unaccepted. So why is it in these moments, we are less willing to allow love to enter in and heal the wounds? We start looking for someone, or something to treat the wound with that will only give us temporary relief.
Would you reject a child in need? Would you deny a child the right to comfort, shelter, compassion or care? Would you walk away when they are in a place of hurting or suffering? So then ask yourself this important question: Why do I do that to myself? Why do I think that I can only be 'fixed' or 'rescued' by others?
The truth is we are the source of our own supply. We have the power to attract solutions, answers, supplies, provisions, comfort, caring and love that we need exactly as we require it. Learning to take responsibility is part of our soul contract and agreement that is now being completed. It is actually part of our conscious creation development.
At what point do we actually take responsibility for our own actions, reactions and attractions that are making up the energy we live in. Who knew that learning to love OURSELVES was the greatest challenge of all. We seem to feel it is easier to turn our focus on others to experience love and yet through those events, we end up being rejected or hurt in so many ways.
What I have learned through my own experience and soul journey is that - you cannot give what you do not have. In other words, until I perfect the ability to love myself unconditionally through all moments and challenges that I create, I cannot and will not be able to love anyone the way they deserve to be loved; UNCONDITIONALLY.
So here we all are seeking something outside of ourselves that we will never find, while we avoid the one source that is the only source we truly have. Our own heart holds the keys and the clues to our happiness. When we follow our own heart - we find the answers and the opportunities to love ourselves no matter what.
We need the most love when we are broken, hurt, feeling rejected or unaccepted. So why is it in these moments, we are less willing to allow love to enter in and heal the wounds? We start looking for someone, or something to treat the wound with that will only give us temporary relief.
Would you reject a child in need? Would you deny a child the right to comfort, shelter, compassion or care? Would you walk away when they are in a place of hurting or suffering? So then ask yourself this important question: Why do I do that to myself? Why do I think that I can only be 'fixed' or 'rescued' by others?
The truth is we are the source of our own supply. We have the power to attract solutions, answers, supplies, provisions, comfort, caring and love that we need exactly as we require it. Learning to take responsibility is part of our soul contract and agreement that is now being completed. It is actually part of our conscious creation development.
Friday, February 17, 2012
Proactive Approach
In simple words, Proactive Approach is to plan and align things in advance by foreseeing future risks, problems or challenges.
Having said that, there are three kind of people on earth. Category-1 is those who strategize things as they have the visualization to portray the future. So they organize things in advance in order to avoid any possible set back. I call these people as ‘Organizers’. Category-2 is those people who have the reactive methodology to handle things. That means whenever a situation arises they react accordingly. I call these people as ‘Reactors’. Although there can be good Reactors but the majority of them are bad Reactors since most of the situations do not give them the luxury of taking a U-Turn for going back to neutral to start again. Category-3 is Commoners. These people do not have control on their lives. They are the product of their circumstances. They automatically flow with the wind; no matter where the wind takes them to. Of course, the first category is the best one as they have a proactive approach to life. So coming back to the track to understand the concept of pro-activeness in more details. Here are some points:
1. Proactiveness is the vision and ability to align the tasks well in advance to avoid mishaps.
2. Proactiveness is to foresee the possible problems and work on the contingencies in parallel with the master plan. It is strongly recommended to execute your contingencies before they execute themselves at the required time, because you never know whether your contingency plan is going to be successful or not. Hence be sure about it by testing the contingency in advance specially when the risk factor is high.
3. Proactive people have the analytical skills to understand any situation in detail so that they can see low level risks and plan accordingly. (You may want to review my article on analytical skills here.
Considering a Tree analogy, I would refer ‘The Organizers’ as ‘The Roots’, ‘The Reactors’ as ‘The Branches’ and ‘The Commoners’ as ‘The leaves’. Always remember the fact that when the wind blows, its leaves which are impacted at first place. So its Leaf’s responsibility to stick to the Tree if they need to live. For Tree, it does not matter if any of the leaf is broken due to strong wind (circumstances). Which category you belong to? Please share your thoughts.
Article Reference: 0013-mjunaidtahir-paradigmwisdom-14Feb12-Use Proactive approach to secure your future
Having said that, there are three kind of people on earth. Category-1 is those who strategize things as they have the visualization to portray the future. So they organize things in advance in order to avoid any possible set back. I call these people as ‘Organizers’. Category-2 is those people who have the reactive methodology to handle things. That means whenever a situation arises they react accordingly. I call these people as ‘Reactors’. Although there can be good Reactors but the majority of them are bad Reactors since most of the situations do not give them the luxury of taking a U-Turn for going back to neutral to start again. Category-3 is Commoners. These people do not have control on their lives. They are the product of their circumstances. They automatically flow with the wind; no matter where the wind takes them to. Of course, the first category is the best one as they have a proactive approach to life. So coming back to the track to understand the concept of pro-activeness in more details. Here are some points:
1. Proactiveness is the vision and ability to align the tasks well in advance to avoid mishaps.
2. Proactiveness is to foresee the possible problems and work on the contingencies in parallel with the master plan. It is strongly recommended to execute your contingencies before they execute themselves at the required time, because you never know whether your contingency plan is going to be successful or not. Hence be sure about it by testing the contingency in advance specially when the risk factor is high.
3. Proactive people have the analytical skills to understand any situation in detail so that they can see low level risks and plan accordingly. (You may want to review my article on analytical skills here.
Considering a Tree analogy, I would refer ‘The Organizers’ as ‘The Roots’, ‘The Reactors’ as ‘The Branches’ and ‘The Commoners’ as ‘The leaves’. Always remember the fact that when the wind blows, its leaves which are impacted at first place. So its Leaf’s responsibility to stick to the Tree if they need to live. For Tree, it does not matter if any of the leaf is broken due to strong wind (circumstances). Which category you belong to? Please share your thoughts.
Article Reference: 0013-mjunaidtahir-paradigmwisdom-14Feb12-Use Proactive approach to secure your future
30 Habits that Will Change your Life
30 Habits that Will Change your Life
Developing good habits is the basic of personal development and growth. Everything we do is the result of a habit that was previously taught to us. Unfortunately, not all the habits that we have are good, that’s why we are constantly trying to improve.
The following is a list of 30 practical habits that can make a huge difference in your life.
You should treat this list as a reference, and implement just one habit per month. This way you will have the time to fully absorb each of them, while still seeing significant improvements each month.
Health habits
Exercise 30 minutes every day. Especially if you don’t do much movement while working, it’s essential that you get some daily exercise. 30 minutes every day are the minimum recommended for optimal health.
Eat breakfast every day. Breakfast is the more important meal of the day, yet so many people skip it. Personally, I like to eat a couple of toasts in the morning along with a fruit beverage.
Sleep 8 hours. Sleep deprivation is never a good idea. You may think that you are gaining time by sleeping less, when in reality you are only gaining stress and tiredness. 8 hours are a good number of hours for most people, along with an optional 20 minutes nap after lunch.
Avoid snacking between meals. Snacking between meals is the best way to gain weight. If you are hungry, eat something concrete. Otherwise don’t. Update: for clarification, I mean don’t eat junk food between meals, but eating real food it’s ok.
Eat five portions of fruits and vegetables every day. Our body and brain loves getting vegetables and fruit, so I highly recommend eating as much of them as possible. Five portions is the dose that’s usually recommended by many health associations.
Eat fish. Fish is rich of omega 3 and other healthy elements. At least one meal per week of fish should be enough for getting all these nutrients.
Drink one glass of water when you wake up. When you wake up, your body is dehydrated and needs liquid. Make the habit of drinking one glass of water after you wake up in the morning. Also, drink more during the day.
Avoid soda. Soda is often one of the most unhealthy beverage you can find. Limit your consumption of soda as much as possible and you’re body will be grateful for that.
Keep your body clean. I don’t advise spending your day in front of the mirror, but a minimum of personal care does never hurt.
If you smoke, stop it. There’s no reason to smoke anymore, and quitting is possible.
If you drink, stop it. Same as above. Don’t think that alcohol will solve your problems. It never does. The only exception is one glass of wine per day during meals.
Take the stairs. This is just a hack that forces you to do a minimum of exercise. Instead of taking the elevator, take the stairs.
Productivity habits
Use an inbox system. Make the habit of keeping track of all the ideas and things that comes to mind. You can use a notebook to do this, and then sync everything on your computer.
Prioritize. If you have a list of things to do, where do you start? One way is to prioritize your list. If you are in doubt, ask yourself: “If I could only accomplish one thing today, what would it be?”
Plan, but not too much. Planning is important, and you should decide in advance what you are going to do today or this week. However, planning for more than a few weeks is usually inefficient, so I would not worry too much about that.
Wake up early. Waking up early in the morning is a great way to gain extra time. I personally like to wake up at 5 am, so that by 9 am I have already accomplished what otherwise would have taken me many days..
Check your email only twice per day. Email can easily become an addiction, but it’s usually unnecessary to check it every 10 minutes. Make an effort and check your email only once or twice per day, see if the world will still rotate as before after you try this.
Eliminate unimportant tasks. Being busy all day does not mean you are doing important stuff. Eliminate every activity that’s not important, and focus on what really matters.
Clean off your desk and room. Having a clear room and desk is important to maintain focus and creativity.
Automate. There are a lot of tasks that you need to perform every day or every week. Try to automate them as much as possible.
Set strict deadlines. When you do something, decide in advance when you’re going to stop. There’s a rule that states that you will fulfill all the time you have available for completing a task, so make an habit of setting strict deadlines for maximizing your productivity.
Take one day off per week. Instead of working every day, take one day off per week (for example sunday) where you are not going to turn on your computer. Use that time for doing recreational activities like going for a walk.
Personal Development habits
Read 1 book per week. Reading is a good way to keep your brain active. With just 30 minutes per day you should be able to read one book per week, or more than 50 books per year.
Solve puzzles. Quizzes, word games, etc. are all good ways to exercise your brain.
Think positively. You are what you think, all the time.
Make fast decisions. Instead of thinking for one hour wherever you are going to do something, make your decisions as fast as possible (usually less than 1 minute).
Wait before buying. Waiting 48 hours before buying anything is a tremendous money saver, try it.
Meditate 30 minutes per day. A great way to gain clearness and peace is through meditation. 30 minutes are not a lot, but enough to get you started with meditation.
Career habits
Start a blog. Blogging is one of the best way to put your word out. It doesn’t have to be around a specific topic, even a personal blog will do.
Build a portfolio. If your job is creating stuff, building a portfolio is a great way to show what you are capable of. You can also contribute stuff for free if that applies to your work.
What do you think? What are the habits that changed your life?
Developing good habits is the basic of personal development and growth. Everything we do is the result of a habit that was previously taught to us. Unfortunately, not all the habits that we have are good, that’s why we are constantly trying to improve.
The following is a list of 30 practical habits that can make a huge difference in your life.
You should treat this list as a reference, and implement just one habit per month. This way you will have the time to fully absorb each of them, while still seeing significant improvements each month.
Health habits
Exercise 30 minutes every day. Especially if you don’t do much movement while working, it’s essential that you get some daily exercise. 30 minutes every day are the minimum recommended for optimal health.
Eat breakfast every day. Breakfast is the more important meal of the day, yet so many people skip it. Personally, I like to eat a couple of toasts in the morning along with a fruit beverage.
Sleep 8 hours. Sleep deprivation is never a good idea. You may think that you are gaining time by sleeping less, when in reality you are only gaining stress and tiredness. 8 hours are a good number of hours for most people, along with an optional 20 minutes nap after lunch.
Avoid snacking between meals. Snacking between meals is the best way to gain weight. If you are hungry, eat something concrete. Otherwise don’t. Update: for clarification, I mean don’t eat junk food between meals, but eating real food it’s ok.
Eat five portions of fruits and vegetables every day. Our body and brain loves getting vegetables and fruit, so I highly recommend eating as much of them as possible. Five portions is the dose that’s usually recommended by many health associations.
Eat fish. Fish is rich of omega 3 and other healthy elements. At least one meal per week of fish should be enough for getting all these nutrients.
Drink one glass of water when you wake up. When you wake up, your body is dehydrated and needs liquid. Make the habit of drinking one glass of water after you wake up in the morning. Also, drink more during the day.
Avoid soda. Soda is often one of the most unhealthy beverage you can find. Limit your consumption of soda as much as possible and you’re body will be grateful for that.
Keep your body clean. I don’t advise spending your day in front of the mirror, but a minimum of personal care does never hurt.
If you smoke, stop it. There’s no reason to smoke anymore, and quitting is possible.
If you drink, stop it. Same as above. Don’t think that alcohol will solve your problems. It never does. The only exception is one glass of wine per day during meals.
Take the stairs. This is just a hack that forces you to do a minimum of exercise. Instead of taking the elevator, take the stairs.
Productivity habits
Use an inbox system. Make the habit of keeping track of all the ideas and things that comes to mind. You can use a notebook to do this, and then sync everything on your computer.
Prioritize. If you have a list of things to do, where do you start? One way is to prioritize your list. If you are in doubt, ask yourself: “If I could only accomplish one thing today, what would it be?”
Plan, but not too much. Planning is important, and you should decide in advance what you are going to do today or this week. However, planning for more than a few weeks is usually inefficient, so I would not worry too much about that.
Wake up early. Waking up early in the morning is a great way to gain extra time. I personally like to wake up at 5 am, so that by 9 am I have already accomplished what otherwise would have taken me many days..
Check your email only twice per day. Email can easily become an addiction, but it’s usually unnecessary to check it every 10 minutes. Make an effort and check your email only once or twice per day, see if the world will still rotate as before after you try this.
Eliminate unimportant tasks. Being busy all day does not mean you are doing important stuff. Eliminate every activity that’s not important, and focus on what really matters.
Clean off your desk and room. Having a clear room and desk is important to maintain focus and creativity.
Automate. There are a lot of tasks that you need to perform every day or every week. Try to automate them as much as possible.
Set strict deadlines. When you do something, decide in advance when you’re going to stop. There’s a rule that states that you will fulfill all the time you have available for completing a task, so make an habit of setting strict deadlines for maximizing your productivity.
Take one day off per week. Instead of working every day, take one day off per week (for example sunday) where you are not going to turn on your computer. Use that time for doing recreational activities like going for a walk.
Personal Development habits
Read 1 book per week. Reading is a good way to keep your brain active. With just 30 minutes per day you should be able to read one book per week, or more than 50 books per year.
Solve puzzles. Quizzes, word games, etc. are all good ways to exercise your brain.
Think positively. You are what you think, all the time.
Make fast decisions. Instead of thinking for one hour wherever you are going to do something, make your decisions as fast as possible (usually less than 1 minute).
Wait before buying. Waiting 48 hours before buying anything is a tremendous money saver, try it.
Meditate 30 minutes per day. A great way to gain clearness and peace is through meditation. 30 minutes are not a lot, but enough to get you started with meditation.
Career habits
Start a blog. Blogging is one of the best way to put your word out. It doesn’t have to be around a specific topic, even a personal blog will do.
Build a portfolio. If your job is creating stuff, building a portfolio is a great way to show what you are capable of. You can also contribute stuff for free if that applies to your work.
What do you think? What are the habits that changed your life?
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